The boys & girls who cry wolf

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If YOU are the common denominator in all your problems? Chances are, you’re the problem. Beware of those who always “cry wolf”. Sometimes the one who’s always crying is actually the wolf.

#WednesdayWisdom Build or Destroy

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You are either a builder or destroyer. You either spend your time building people up or tearing them down.
You either mostly talk about people or talk to them.
You are a person who speaks life into others or you are a person who speaks death.

Do your words line up to how you desire to live your life? Are you behaving in a manner that communicates the kind of person you want to be?

#WednesdayWisdom Are you dating your phone?

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So many people are missing out on what real life has to offer because their most important relationship is with themselves. There’s nothing wrong with healthy self-esteem, taking care of yourself, and setting boundaries but when it’s an ego issue? That’s dangerous.

Most people (even older ones) have conformed to this new mindset in regards to the importance of your cell phone (which lets not forget is an object). Most people will go back home if they forget it and some will have an all out emotional melt down if they lose it. There is nothing healthy about that. It was unheard of professionally for you to have a cell phone on or with you while working and these days you can find every cashier at almost every store with phone in hand. People spend more time on their phones at work then they do actually working.

We are becoming more and more out of touch with what is actually reality. Dating has become a tap, swipe, or like. People develop relationships off a filtered presence on social media based on a character that they have created themselves to be as opposed to who they actually are. Nobody actually meets anymore because meeting would cause them to have to come out from behind their self created phone world and the hard core truth is most people are afraid to do that because they honestly lack the social skills and the ability to handle human to human interactions including rejection, so they avoid it all together and tap, swipe, or like their way on to the next. If this continues, all of the things that help make life beautiful like memories, family, friendships, dating, will all be non-existent and we will find ourselves in a world much colder then the one we already have.

Deception

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I don’t get offended when people lie to me because in order for a person to lie to you, they lie to themselves first so I can’t take that personal that’s a self-issue. The only part about deception that makes me squint though is the assumption that I don’t know it’s a lie because basically you’re trying to insult God’s discernment within me and my intelligence.

#ThursdayThoughts Enterainment

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Be careful what you entertain …. That very thing may just enter you and detain you.

#WednesdayWisdom Setting Boundaries

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Boundaries are important because they set limits. Too often times many of us find ourselves stressed out simply because we don’t have any clearly established boundaries in our life. There are limits and boundaries in every part of our lives even if we fail to recognize them or acknowledge them.

There’s order and structure in Heaven and even the kingdom of darkness has an order and rank that’s followed. Home, church, work, school, etc all have limits and rules to some extent. For some reason though, people seem to have the hardest time when it comes to developing personal boundaries. Some folks have no idea how to respect them and that’s not entirely their fault because many people don’t even know how to have them so the “norm” in most cases is for people to actually feel a false sense of entitlement to do or say whatever they want. Have you ever said no and then been asked a million questions as to why you said no, then felt obligated to talk more?

We have got to learn an internal system of healthy limit setting. Self-preservation is not selfish and you don’t owe everyone an explanation. This isn’t a free pass to be disrespectful or obnoxious but you can say no and own your no. It’s up to you to decide what you are willing to commit to, tolerate, and even the way you allow other people to communicate with you and treat you. I make it a point to speak to everyone with respect. It doesn’t always mean I’m going to tell them something they desire to hear, but I will speak in a respectful manner and if they’re not going to speak to me in the same manner then we won’t speak until that can happen.

It is so important we understand our worth because once we truly understand our worth, we will have a much easier time protecting it.

New Music by @itselwoodmusic “Story of My Life”

 

#SoGoneChallenge

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So.. apparently the new “challenge” is doing a remix of Monica’s track “So Gone” from her “After the Storm” album (which by the way was originally released on my Birthday June 17th in 2003). Absolutely one of those timeless albums that if you played it today 13 years later it would still be good.

So what I’m sharing is in my opinion one of the best (if not thee best) #SoGoneChallenge attempts I’ve seen by Elwood (Elwood Music).

You can check Elwood out on Facebook & Twitter:

https://www.facebook.com/Elwoodandmusic/?fref=ts

#WednesdayWisdom Are you prepared?

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Are you prepared or are you a bang & fizzle? A bang & fizzle person is someone who has a million ideas, starts with a bang but ends with a fizzle. They never really see anything through to the end and eventually just have a million ideas that have all started with a bang but all ended with a fizzle. I’ve done it myself especially when I was a brand new entrepreneur. I have learned through my years of experience (both successes and failures) that a lot of the time the reason for the fizzle is unpreparedness.

This doesn’t relate to only business though, often times we are not even prepared for the things we desire or are praying for. Sometimes we even can find ourselves frustrated when we have an idea or vision that we feel in our heart is the right thing to do or something God gave us but then it doesn’t quite fall into place like we expect or as quickly as we thought it would. We can’t receive new blessings with an old mindset. People pray for a spouse without making any preparation to actually be a spouse . People want to start a business but never actually sit down and write a business plan. People want to go back to school but never figure out how they’re going to re-arrange their schedule to fit in time for class and homework. People think they’re ready for a promotion but lack the ability to control their own emotions which directly impacts your ability to lead anything. So many people want to break into the music game but never research how much of their own money they’ll have to invest in order to generate a buzz. There’s a whole lot of folks praying for the winning power ball numbers and think all of their problems in life will be solved with millions of dollars but they can’t even wisely manage a tax refund. The list goes on and on.

If you ever sit down with a successful person and ask them how they became so successful, the first thing they’ll normally tell you is about is all the time they were unsuccessful. Don’t compare your journey to someone else’s or envy what someone else has because you have no idea what they went through or sacrificed to get there. If you believe in the vision you have, take the time to prepare for it properly. Do your research, date yourself, learn how to budget, and do whatever else is necessary to help you be in the best position to receive what you’re asking for or working towards.

Who’s side are you on?

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Nowadays everyone’s offended. It’s frowned upon to say anything or do anything that might potentially be offensive to anyone at anytime for any reason, except God of course. Most people are more worried about being politically correct instead of biblically correct.

“No one can serve two masters, for you will love one and hate the other, or you will be devoted to one and despise the other.” (Matthew 6:24)

There is no middle of the road. If you serve God you absolutely will offend man and if you live your life serving man and the opinions of others you absolutely offend God. In fact, He even warns that if you are lukewarm he will spit you out of His mouth (Revelation 3:16).

So this leaves each of us with a personal decision that nobody else can make for us or help us with. If we ignore the choice then the choice is made for us. The time to make that choice shortens each day as none of us know what day will be our last.

“And if it seems evil to you to serve The Lord, choose for yourselves this day in whom you will serve” (Joshua 24:15)