We have all heard it’s far better to give then receive and most of us even consider ourselves a giver to some degree. A true giver though, gives out of a genuine place which is a place that has no self serving motives behind it.
A gift is a gift. When the gift giving is used as leverage (I.e brought up later and thrown in someone’s face, or posted on social media so everyone can see you’re a giver, etc) is cancels the kindness, voids the genuine aspect.
I have learned that the true test of giving comes when you do something for someone who can never repay you. Most people relate giving to material things but this isn’t always the case. Most people are comfortable with giving until it makes them uncomfortable.
People are often times more comfortable with giving you a material item before giving you a sincere congratulations. Isn’t that crazy? Most people are okay with buying you a meal, but it’s almost impossible for them to be happy for you, especially if you get something they want or need for themselves. I have found though that this is a true measure of the condition of your heart. Are you able to pray for someone’s healing when you yourself are sick? Are you able to celebrate a marriage if your own is in turmoil? Are you able to congratulate someone’s success while you yourself are grinding away? Now ask yourself, are you truly a giver?
Are you prepared or are you a bang & fizzle? A bang & fizzle person is someone who has a million ideas, starts with a bang but ends with a fizzle. They never really see anything through to the end and eventually just have a million ideas that have all started with a bang but all ended with a fizzle. I’ve done it myself especially when I was a brand new entrepreneur. I have learned through my years of experience (both successes and failures) that a lot of the time the reason for the fizzle is unpreparedness.
This doesn’t relate to only business though, often times we are not even prepared for the things we desire or are praying for. Sometimes we even can find ourselves frustrated when we have an idea or vision that we feel in our heart is the right thing to do or something God gave us but then it doesn’t quite fall into place like we expect or as quickly as we thought it would. We can’t receive new blessings with an old mindset. People pray for a spouse without making any preparation to actually be a spouse . People want to start a business but never actually sit down and write a business plan. People want to go back to school but never figure out how they’re going to re-arrange their schedule to fit in time for class and homework. People think they’re ready for a promotion but lack the ability to control their own emotions which directly impacts your ability to lead anything. So many people want to break into the music game but never research how much of their own money they’ll have to invest in order to generate a buzz. There’s a whole lot of folks praying for the winning power ball numbers and think all of their problems in life will be solved with millions of dollars but they can’t even wisely manage a tax refund. The list goes on and on.
If you ever sit down with a successful person and ask them how they became so successful, the first thing they’ll normally tell you is about is all the time they were unsuccessful. Don’t compare your journey to someone else’s or envy what someone else has because you have no idea what they went through or sacrificed to get there. If you believe in the vision you have, take the time to prepare for it properly. Do your research, date yourself, learn how to budget, and do whatever else is necessary to help you be in the best position to receive what you’re asking for or working towards.
Reaping & sowing actually means working and working. Some folks are under the impression that “reaping” or success means sitting back with your feet up while good things happen or the money rolls in and nothing could be further from the truth. “Success” or “elevation” is never going to look like how you pictured it. You can’t have more of one thing without the other (hence why wheat and weeds grow together until harvest time). If you have more money you have more expenses, more influence more people that don’t like you, etc. You can’t have one thing without getting the other. If you desire to make an impact? Best believe it’s not going to unfold like how you pictured it but you’ll know it’s happening the moment it appears like all hell has broken loose around you. A lot of people say they want things but have no idea the price tag they actually come with nor are they equipped to even handle what they’re asking for, not to mention don’t have the work ethic. You want God to give you a million but you act like a fool with a tax return, you want a million dollars but you’re the laziest employee at your job. Some folks would actually kill themselves if they got exactly what they’re asking for right now and the other half are sitting around right now complaining because they got exactly what they asked for.
Do you even really know what the pursuit of happiness means?
You should. It’s personal.
Fam let me shed some light in a dark place…. I’m not sure who lied to us, but there is no point to EVER try and live up to someone else’s definition of happiness. You won’t ever be able to. Happiness is personal. The world makes us believe if we’re not married by this age, or have a house, or have this kind of car that we never will and we will just be rejects of society because we haven’t “arrived”. Let me tell you something, some of the happiest people in the world go home every night and stink to high heaven because they were shoveling cow poop all day.
Ask yourself this…. are you fulfilled? Do you have peace in your home? Do you have rest in your soul at night? Do you have meaningful relationships in your life? Do you have faith? Fam… even if you never see the outside of the city you live in, if you have those things you are wealthier than most folks who spend money on crap they don’t need in order to impress people who they don’t like. If you don’t have those things, you might want to examine the goals you have set for yourself.
Mark Twain said something along the lines of the most significant two days in your life is the day you were born and the day you figure out why. There is nothing wrong with success and wealth. If you’ve read anything about #OPERATIONREVOLUTION you know we believe EVERYONE is entitled to some of it, that’s why we’re successful. Whatever it is you choose to follow in your life, make sure your passion is appropriately placed. You can love something but have no passion for it. We all have passion for something… it’s that thing that makes you zone out, it holds your focus, you never get tired of it, it becomes everything of who you are. Passion with no love is dangerous. But when you have passion for the thing (or person) you love…. you can literally feel the forces of the earth moving. You know I’m telling you the truth…..
All I suggest is if you are trying to find happiness, stop listening to everyone else and start doing some soul-searching. Words or opinions of other people can hurt you or drive you nuts if you let them. If today you stood before God, would any of those things matter? If you were able to go back and get more time …… I highly doubt anywhere on your agenda would be people pleasing. But whatever was on that list of things you’d go back to do…. start paying more attention to those NOW. Have those stable and my dears you will find happiness.