Dear Men #HappyFathersDay
Since Father’s Day is approaching I wanted to take a moment and post something that was for the men specifically. I for one am a little sick and tired of everyone always beating on the men. There are good men and there’s not just five, there’s a lot of them. If you happen to be someone that can’t find one it’s probably where you’re looking and if you can’t seem to stop picking bad ones then sweetheart with all due respect, the problem isn’t them it’s you. I understand there are some dead beats out there, but there’s good and bad in every kind under the sun and maybe you have never met a dead beat mom but they exist far more then ever gets acknowledged. Domestic Violence is bad, people should never beat on each other but that goes for women too. As an actual DV survivor? Nothing ticks me off more then a woman who abuses a man continuously emotionally and physically until he explodes and then pulls the woman card. You women are disgraceful and what you’re doing is selfish because there are actually women who stalked, held hostage, and killed. So when you can’t keep your hands to yourself because you have emotional problems you haven’t dealt with yet… but I’m gonna leave that alone until another post.
Society has managed to do something pretty awful. Something that if it was corrected would solve A LOT of the issues going on in the world today. Men have been victims of an all out war waged against them by the devil himself. God created man in His image and likeness. Not angels or anything else. God created man. God created woman out of man. If we look back over the last 20-years society has always been constructed to assassinate the man. Everything is designed for them to fail. Images of them with absolutely no self-control when it comes to sex get shoved down their throat at a very early age and almost every main stream music, movie, or product is strategically designed to portray them as an animal, giving you the impression that their life revolves around women, sex, beer, and sports. There is a generation of women that actually believe it’s okay for a man to cheat because “that’s what (insert race or negative term about a man of your choice) men do”. Then in the 90’s they were fed the womanizing gangster mentality and thus the “independent woman” “single mom” came into full swing as the “norm” and women got so independent they began to not need a man at all so when we rolled in to 2000 they just began sharing clothes since the roles had almost completely reversed and women now believe that they don’t need a man for anything.
So… I could get into so much more but that’s not what the purpose of this post is. I wanted to take some time out and speak a word of encouragement to the men. Not every woman thinks she doesn’t need one of you. In fact, there is a whole bunch of us who believe in who God called and created you to be. So on behalf of those women (and I assure you there are at least a million of us) I want you to know that the world is desperately in need of you to rise up and recognize the authority that God has placed inside of you. God created you to be so much stronger then you were probably ever taught that you were. When God gave Adam dominion over the earth, he was giving it to you so if you get yourself aligned (John 3:16) you absolutely already have everything inside of you to right a lot of wrongs.
Being the best at everything or allowing your value to come from material status and possessions is only a comforting goal for fools. These things are irrelevant to a man of God because he understands he was made in the image and likeness of his creator and everything he needs to be a man, husband, & father has already been placed inside of him with the maximum amount needed for greatness. Greatness is inside of you because God put it there and the only thing you really need to do is find it and activate it.
Happy Father’s Day
The best relationship advice I ever received was, “Don’t settle for Ishmael because God has your Isaac on the way.” At the time I received this advice, I ignored this advice and ended up in the WORST relationship I had ever experienced and almost lost my life. The point is, WAIT ON GOD. Don’t settle, don’t try to help God out, don’t try to hurry Him along, and don’t try to dress up the Ishmael YOU chose and parade him around like he’s Isaac. We can save ourselves a lot of necessary pain, tears, and delay of our promise if we learn to just WAIT.
For those of you who may not be familiar with this bible story I’ll give you a quick overview (strongly encourage you to look it up and read it for yourself it begins Genesis 17) God tells Abraham’s wife Sarah that she’s going to have a baby, she’s already 90 and decides to “help God out” and tells her husband to go into her maid and that’s when Ishmael is born. As you can imagine that didn’t go over too well when the baby got here and there was quite the commotion, and to make a long story short Isaac was born as God had promised and they could have saved themselves a whole bunch of trouble had they had just been patient.
@houseofestherct 2nd Annual Winter Drive accepting donations!
House of Esther International kicks off it’s 2nd Annual Winter Drive to purchase blankets and socks for homeless residents in Connecticut and New York City areas. Every little bit helps, even $1 buys a pair of insulated socks for someone in need.
Many homeless individuals are battling untreated mental illness and at least half of homeless women and children are fleeing domestic violence.Consider being a blessing and check out the Go Fund Me page for this year’s drive! http://www.gofundme.com/HEwinterDrive
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#Relationships101 Warning Signs by @queentheprophet
This may be my first blog that turns into a slow rant yet a testimony. I saw something today that disturbed my spirit enough to write about it.
Today I happened to see a name fly through one of my social media pages that almost made me throw-up. My regular blog readers already know that I am a huge advocate for Domestic Violence, been trained as a DV counselor, and am also a DV survivor. I was married to someone for a very short period of time who was a childhood sweetheart and who also tried to kill me twice and one of the two times held me hostage for over 4-hours. Needless to say Fam, we live & we learn. The scary part is when people don’t learn.
So I saw this guy’s name fly through my news feed and what I saw made me sad. The kind of sad you get when you KNOW something terrible is going to come out of a situation. I saw a young lady posting all these “Free so-n-so” and quoting lines that the above mentioned nut job has been using since he & I were kids, posting jail mail graffiti name drawings (his notorious jail calling card) Surprise, surprise he was also apparently in jail … which is really not a surprise because in the 20 years I’ve known him, that’s where he usually spends most of his time. The most sickening part was this young lady post statements like “after everything you’ve been through…” I just shook my head. The person she was speaking of has a publicly known track record for beating women bloody (which of course I found out too late obviously).
Here’s my question though, if you meet a new person and you catch wind of a DV history and multiple ones at that, does it ever occur to you that that’s a warning sign? Most people will play it off and blame a “crazy baby mother/father” which is fine and in some cases true. If you research statistics though, once someone has determined that communicating with violence in intimate relationships is okay, they do it to multiple people.
My Mother used to say “a leopard doesn’t change it’s spots”, I agree to a certain degree. I’m a believer that with God all things are possible and if I didn’t there wouldn’t be any hope for me either then because nobody is perfect. However, some folks ain’t livin right and aren’t even trying for that matter. There are simple common sense things though that we should pay attention to.
Ladies & Gentlemen (because Lord knows there are plenty of men that get hit by women and not too many people address it, but it does happen and women can absolutely be abusive. 9 out of 10 times a victim of domestic violence that is in need of healing and doesn’t get it will then attach herself to a man she can control as a way of getting back the control that was stolen, just like men with a history of child abuse statistically often grow up to become abusers) if the person your dating has a history of domestic violence, investigate. It might save your life.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE @queentheprophet GHETTO GOVT 1st Lady #TEAMQUEEN #DaughtersOfZion calls 4 old cell phones
As some of you may or may not know, I am a certified Battered Women’s Counselor as well as a survivor of Domestic Violence. In 2005, I lost a very special friend at the hands of her husband. He stabbed my friend multiple times and killed her… because she wouldn’t give him money for drugs. You didn’t know Adrienne, but I did. She was always smiling. She worked with people with disabilities and just like a human service professional, linked up with a man that needed her help too. She loved the Lord and was one of those people that if you asked her to pray, she’d stop and do it. I remember when I told her I was getting married… she left work, went home and got her wedding dress and made me try it on in the office. That was the last time I saw her.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and although it’s a few months away, it’s never too early to get started. Old cell phones are used by DV shelters and hotlines to offer victims (both male & female victims) a safety plan. The phones can only dial 911 and are often the link that saves lives.
On behalf of Ghetto Govt #TeamQueen Daughters of Zion, I will be collecting old cell phones from now until 10/3/13 to donate to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. If you would like to donate a phone or collect multiple phones to donate, please email firstname.lastname@example.org put DV PHONES in the subject line. If you are in need of help and have questions about where you can get it, (In Connecticut) dial Infoline 211 for 24/7 crisis counselors and referral specialists.
Outside of Connecticut, contact the NATIONAL COALITION AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
#NationalPoetryMonth @queentheprophet delivers “Journey 2 the throne”
Journey to the throne…..
My Sisters, My Queens, Yes I’m talking to you.
Only the ones who can relate to what this Queen’s gone through.
If your life has been perfect, well then that’s good for you.
I’d never wish on another the things I knew.
My past was in darkness, the worst parts of myself.
Now I look back like it was somebody else.
If the blows start coming when you’re just a little girl,
Meteor shower damage it can do to your world.
If you’ve ever been touched because ignored was your no,
Very easy it is to detach from your soul.
If a man said love but put a fist to your face,
It’s not easy to remove from your memory place.
You swore off love to never feel it again,
Last time you did, he slept with your friend.
If you lived through a life where your family put you out,
Difficult to grasp what the concept of love is about.
No prince charming like the plans that you had.
Impossible to find when you have issues with Dad.
Then when you finally stand up and fight,
It never really turns out just quite right.
The strength from Jezebel you draw secretly makes you a whore.
I know this is painful but you need to hear more.
Your anger hurls you straight into the enemy’s lap.
Deception it is because control never comes back.
Finally one day you rise out of your mess.
You humbly realize this was only a test.
Now your life begins to become blessed,
When you realize God is the one you should impress.
It’s a confident walk when you know what your worth,
Now rise up and claim your thrones Queen’s of the earth.
Don’t worry about the Kings, they won’t be too far.
All along they were only really waiting for you to set the bar.
Loosed from the chains that caused shame in the past,
You finally flow with freedom safely in your grasp.
For once your heart begins the process of restoration,
Soon will come the light of transformation.
Now life’s hits your throne is prepared to take,
Even if they showed up with a video tape.
The Gospel of Q
My name is QueenTheProphet…. this was my journey to the throne.
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