Category Archives: Relationships 101

Section dedicated to romance, marriage, dating, love, and relationship encouragement, wisdom, and teachings by Queen the Prophet.

#Relationships

Can’t move forward living in the past folks. People pray for #husband or #wife but are still picking up the phone every time an X calls…. position yourself to be FULLY equipped for what you’re asking for!

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Be a best friend

Be a best friend…. EVEN when someone is not a friend to you. When you can learn to do that and STILL be consistent in the love and friendship you offer? That’s when you begin to tap into that kind of speak to the mountain #faith and actually watch it move! Never let someone else’s conduct knock you off how YOU are supposed to be living and what YOU are supposed to be doing. ❤️

Boundaries

I think it’s fair to say that most people aren’t ever taught the importance of having personal boundaries. Proper parenting involves setting limits (rules) for children, school and the workplace have policies and rules but unfortunately the average person doesn’t learn about personal boundaries until they’ve been hurt by not having any.

Self preservation is not selfish. It is very important to have an inner confidence (sense or knowing) of what is okay and not okay when it comes to ourselves. Having healthy boundaries is learning how to own our personal “yes” and own our personal “no”.

Boundaries look different depending upon what kind it is.

You may have a work boundary and decide that Saturday is family day and you are not doing any work related things on a Saturday, period. You may have a personal communication boundary that if someone is hostile or swearing, you will not participate in the discussion until the tone of voice and language can be respectful.

It doesn’t happen overnight, but take sometime to think about all the areas you have in your life and what the limits are. Do you even have limits or do you just go with the flow even when the flow is trying to drown you? Have the courage and strength to see yourself as the valuable creation God created you to be. Have confidence in your worth and know deep down on the inside that you are worthy of being treated with dignity and respect.

#Relationships101 Dating? It’s rough.

Ladies and Gentlemen too… trust me, I KNOW. It’s hard, it’s tough, it’s disappointing and in some cases devastating but you cannot give up. You just can’t. Often times we accept the love we THINK we deserve and God wants you to have the best. That doesn’t mean have unrealistic demands and expectations but don’t settle for a mate that requires assembly either. If you want God’s best? Do it His way. #ThatIsAll #dating #love #marriage #single #men #women

Single on Valentines Day

Since single people start loosing their natural minds on Valentine’s Day, I felt inclined to post something for the single people. 

Single is not a disease. You know what should be a disease? Relationship hopping. Some people are willing to settle for anybody, just to have somebody and end up with a nobody. Settling never turns out good. No person is ever going to be perfect but way too many people settle for things THEY KNOW are wrong or messed up. The sad truth is people settle for the love they THINK they deserve. 

You deserve better than someone who doesn’t respect you. You deserve better than someone who makes you change who you are just to be with them. You deserve better than someone who gets thrills off of creating relational drama. Our problem is we have no standards and no boundaries and way too many people are seriously out here just doing anything so they can post it and create an image of themselves that is imaginary. 

You can tell everything you need to know about a partner by the kind of relationship they have with God. If it’s not God’s best? Wait. Don’t settle. I know how hard waiting is or secretly hoping this time will be thee time, believe me I get it. God is more then able to provide all of your needs in the mean time if you let Him. Don’t let a day that’s not an actual holiday ruin your day and if you really want candy & flowers you can buy them for yourself tomorrow at 50% off. 

Best Relationship Advice for 2017

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If you want more fulfilling relationships with other people this year try this:
STOP posting the blow by blow all over social media, ENJOY your private moments and if you feel the need to share a photo? Do it when it’s over. Then try actually spending time with people while not being on your phone. This system is flawless it worked for thousands of years before there was social media.

What really matters

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All that’s worth caring about at the end of the day is where you’ll end up when you die. While you’re here on earth? Live for #Christ , share Christ with people that don’t know Him at all, take care of your family, your health and your business. Anything else is absolutely irrelevant so if you waste your time doing anything else? I guarantee you, you’ll regret it bc you can’t buy more time no matter how much money you have or don’t have and all that other nonsense doesn’t add to the clock, it only subtracts. #ThursdayThoughts #QueenTheProphet #Quote #Life #Faith #Inspire

#WednesdayWisdom Are you dating your phone?

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So many people are missing out on what real life has to offer because their most important relationship is with themselves. There’s nothing wrong with healthy self-esteem, taking care of yourself, and setting boundaries but when it’s an ego issue? That’s dangerous.

Most people (even older ones) have conformed to this new mindset in regards to the importance of your cell phone (which lets not forget is an object). Most people will go back home if they forget it and some will have an all out emotional melt down if they lose it. There is nothing healthy about that. It was unheard of professionally for you to have a cell phone on or with you while working and these days you can find every cashier at almost every store with phone in hand. People spend more time on their phones at work then they do actually working.

We are becoming more and more out of touch with what is actually reality. Dating has become a tap, swipe, or like. People develop relationships off a filtered presence on social media based on a character that they have created themselves to be as opposed to who they actually are. Nobody actually meets anymore because meeting would cause them to have to come out from behind their self created phone world and the hard core truth is most people are afraid to do that because they honestly lack the social skills and the ability to handle human to human interactions including rejection, so they avoid it all together and tap, swipe, or like their way on to the next. If this continues, all of the things that help make life beautiful like memories, family, friendships, dating, will all be non-existent and we will find ourselves in a world much colder then the one we already have.

#WednesdayWisdom Setting Boundaries

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Boundaries are important because they set limits. Too often times many of us find ourselves stressed out simply because we don’t have any clearly established boundaries in our life. There are limits and boundaries in every part of our lives even if we fail to recognize them or acknowledge them.

There’s order and structure in Heaven and even the kingdom of darkness has an order and rank that’s followed. Home, church, work, school, etc all have limits and rules to some extent. For some reason though, people seem to have the hardest time when it comes to developing personal boundaries. Some folks have no idea how to respect them and that’s not entirely their fault because many people don’t even know how to have them so the “norm” in most cases is for people to actually feel a false sense of entitlement to do or say whatever they want. Have you ever said no and then been asked a million questions as to why you said no, then felt obligated to talk more?

We have got to learn an internal system of healthy limit setting. Self-preservation is not selfish and you don’t owe everyone an explanation. This isn’t a free pass to be disrespectful or obnoxious but you can say no and own your no. It’s up to you to decide what you are willing to commit to, tolerate, and even the way you allow other people to communicate with you and treat you. I make it a point to speak to everyone with respect. It doesn’t always mean I’m going to tell them something they desire to hear, but I will speak in a respectful manner and if they’re not going to speak to me in the same manner then we won’t speak until that can happen.

It is so important we understand our worth because once we truly understand our worth, we will have a much easier time protecting it.

Criticisms

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“Outward criticisms can only ever effect you to the degree your inward insecurities allow them to.”-Steven Furtick

“and not in any way terrified by your adversaries, which is to them a proof of perdition, but to you of salvation, and that from God” (Philippians 1:28)