Category Archives: Relationships 101
Section dedicated to romance, marriage, dating, love, and relationship encouragement, wisdom, and teachings by Queen the Prophet.
“Grateful Pause ” with @Queentheprophet at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1851547/9203483-grateful-pause
Often times on our journey we will come to a place that feels like stagnation or like we’ve hit a wall. To be quite honest, most of the time we are the stagnation or wall.
We ask God to increase our faith but when opportunities arise for us to exercise that faith we fail to launch. We must remember that “faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen” (Hebrews 11:1) Sometimes you’re going to have to leap.
This isn’t a free pass to make impulsive unwise decisions but rather a reminder that a “a good man’s steps are ordered by the Lord” (Psalm 37:23). It was explained to me once that many people misinterpret this and think it means you just standing around waiting for God to hand you a detailed itinerary of His plan. While you should always move in wisdom, once you have received your confirmation (sometimes multiple times) you’re going to have to walk. When you walk, God will order your steps.
Even if you make a mistake, He always has a plan to get you to your destiny at the moment it was predestined for you to be there.
Can’t move forward living in the past folks. People pray for #husband or #wife but are still picking up the phone every time an X calls…. position yourself to be FULLY equipped for what you’re asking for!
Be a best friend…. EVEN when someone is not a friend to you. When you can learn to do that and STILL be consistent in the love and friendship you offer? That’s when you begin to tap into that kind of speak to the mountain #faith and actually watch it move! Never let someone else’s conduct knock you off how YOU are supposed to be living and what YOU are supposed to be doing. ❤️
I think it’s fair to say that most people aren’t ever taught the importance of having personal boundaries. Proper parenting involves setting limits (rules) for children, school and the workplace have policies and rules but unfortunately the average person doesn’t learn about personal boundaries until they’ve been hurt by not having any.
Self preservation is not selfish. It is very important to have an inner confidence (sense or knowing) of what is okay and not okay when it comes to ourselves. Having healthy boundaries is learning how to own our personal “yes” and own our personal “no”.
Boundaries look different depending upon what kind it is.
You may have a work boundary and decide that Saturday is family day and you are not doing any work related things on a Saturday, period. You may have a personal communication boundary that if someone is hostile or swearing, you will not participate in the discussion until the tone of voice and language can be respectful.
It doesn’t happen overnight, but take sometime to think about all the areas you have in your life and what the limits are. Do you even have limits or do you just go with the flow even when the flow is trying to drown you? Have the courage and strength to see yourself as the valuable creation God created you to be. Have confidence in your worth and know deep down on the inside that you are worthy of being treated with dignity and respect.
Ladies and Gentlemen too… trust me, I KNOW. It’s hard, it’s tough, it’s disappointing and in some cases devastating but you cannot give up. You just can’t. Often times we accept the love we THINK we deserve and God wants you to have the best. That doesn’t mean have unrealistic demands and expectations but don’t settle for a mate that requires assembly either. If you want God’s best? Do it His way. #ThatIsAll #dating #love #marriage #single #men #women
Single is not a disease. You know what should be a disease? Relationship hopping. Some people are willing to settle for anybody, just to have somebody and end up with a nobody. Settling never turns out good. No person is ever going to be perfect but way too many people settle for things THEY KNOW are wrong or messed up. The sad truth is people settle for the love they THINK they deserve.
You deserve better than someone who doesn’t respect you. You deserve better than someone who makes you change who you are just to be with them. You deserve better than someone who gets thrills off of creating relational drama. Our problem is we have no standards and no boundaries and way too many people are seriously out here just doing anything so they can post it and create an image of themselves that is imaginary.
You can tell everything you need to know about a partner by the kind of relationship they have with God. If it’s not God’s best? Wait. Don’t settle. I know how hard waiting is or secretly hoping this time will be thee time, believe me I get it. God is more then able to provide all of your needs in the mean time if you let Him. Don’t let a day that’s not an actual holiday ruin your day and if you really want candy & flowers you can buy them for yourself tomorrow at 50% off.
If you want more fulfilling relationships with other people this year try this:
STOP posting the blow by blow all over social media, ENJOY your private moments and if you feel the need to share a photo? Do it when it’s over. Then try actually spending time with people while not being on your phone. This system is flawless it worked for thousands of years before there was social media.