Category Archives: Relationships 101
Section dedicated to romance, marriage, dating, love, and relationship encouragement, wisdom, and teachings by Queen the Prophet.
I think it’s fair to say that most people aren’t ever taught the importance of having personal boundaries. Proper parenting involves setting limits (rules) for children, school and the workplace have policies and rules but unfortunately the average person doesn’t learn about personal boundaries until they’ve been hurt by not having any.
Self preservation is not selfish. It is very important to have an inner confidence (sense or knowing) of what is okay and not okay when it comes to ourselves. Having healthy boundaries is learning how to own our personal “yes” and own our personal “no”.
Boundaries look different depending upon what kind it is.
You may have a work boundary and decide that Saturday is family day and you are not doing any work related things on a Saturday, period. You may have a personal communication boundary that if someone is hostile or swearing, you will not participate in the discussion until the tone of voice and language can be respectful.
It doesn’t happen overnight, but take sometime to think about all the areas you have in your life and what the limits are. Do you even have limits or do you just go with the flow even when the flow is trying to drown you? Have the courage and strength to see yourself as the valuable creation God created you to be. Have confidence in your worth and know deep down on the inside that you are worthy of being treated with dignity and respect.
Ladies and Gentlemen too… trust me, I KNOW. It’s hard, it’s tough, it’s disappointing and in some cases devastating but you cannot give up. You just can’t. Often times we accept the love we THINK we deserve and God wants you to have the best. That doesn’t mean have unrealistic demands and expectations but don’t settle for a mate that requires assembly either. If you want God’s best? Do it His way. #ThatIsAll #dating #love #marriage #single #men #women
Single is not a disease. You know what should be a disease? Relationship hopping. Some people are willing to settle for anybody, just to have somebody and end up with a nobody. Settling never turns out good. No person is ever going to be perfect but way too many people settle for things THEY KNOW are wrong or messed up. The sad truth is people settle for the love they THINK they deserve.
You deserve better than someone who doesn’t respect you. You deserve better than someone who makes you change who you are just to be with them. You deserve better than someone who gets thrills off of creating relational drama. Our problem is we have no standards and no boundaries and way too many people are seriously out here just doing anything so they can post it and create an image of themselves that is imaginary.
You can tell everything you need to know about a partner by the kind of relationship they have with God. If it’s not God’s best? Wait. Don’t settle. I know how hard waiting is or secretly hoping this time will be thee time, believe me I get it. God is more then able to provide all of your needs in the mean time if you let Him. Don’t let a day that’s not an actual holiday ruin your day and if you really want candy & flowers you can buy them for yourself tomorrow at 50% off.
If you want more fulfilling relationships with other people this year try this:
STOP posting the blow by blow all over social media, ENJOY your private moments and if you feel the need to share a photo? Do it when it’s over. Then try actually spending time with people while not being on your phone. This system is flawless it worked for thousands of years before there was social media.
All that’s worth caring about at the end of the day is where you’ll end up when you die. While you’re here on earth? Live for #Christ , share Christ with people that don’t know Him at all, take care of your family, your health and your business. Anything else is absolutely irrelevant so if you waste your time doing anything else? I guarantee you, you’ll regret it bc you can’t buy more time no matter how much money you have or don’t have and all that other nonsense doesn’t add to the clock, it only subtracts. #ThursdayThoughts #QueenTheProphet #Quote #Life #Faith #Inspire
“Outward criticisms can only ever effect you to the degree your inward insecurities allow them to.”-Steven Furtick
“and not in any way terrified by your adversaries, which is to them a proof of perdition, but to you of salvation, and that from God” (Philippians 1:28)
I don’t live for people’s compliments. If I did, I would die when they criticized me.
We all need a compliment or an encouraging word every now and then but we cannot live for those things. It’s far better to be a God pleaser then a people pleaser. God loves you unconditionally, every day, even at your worst. People? People are imperfect so we can’t rely on them more then we rely on God. There are time’s when we find ourselves alone and we have got to fight ourselves out of a corner and back to life, not roll over and die. If we allow our self-worth and self-esteem to be based solely upon what other people think or say instead of what God has already said & declared over our lives then when people deliver a criticism instead of a compliment, we’re gonna get messed up.
The best relationship advice I ever received was, “Don’t settle for Ishmael because God has your Isaac on the way.” At the time I received this advice, I ignored this advice and ended up in the WORST relationship I had ever experienced and almost lost my life. The point is, WAIT ON GOD. Don’t settle, don’t try to help God out, don’t try to hurry Him along, and don’t try to dress up the Ishmael YOU chose and parade him around like he’s Isaac. We can save ourselves a lot of necessary pain, tears, and delay of our promise if we learn to just WAIT.
For those of you who may not be familiar with this bible story I’ll give you a quick overview (strongly encourage you to look it up and read it for yourself it begins Genesis 17) God tells Abraham’s wife Sarah that she’s going to have a baby, she’s already 90 and decides to “help God out” and tells her husband to go into her maid and that’s when Ishmael is born. As you can imagine that didn’t go over too well when the baby got here and there was quite the commotion, and to make a long story short Isaac was born as God had promised and they could have saved themselves a whole bunch of trouble had they had just been patient.