Monthly Archives: April 2019
Sure there’s folks who may only go to church on holidays… but none of us know the day it may take hold of their heart and change their life.
So instead of judging their attendance pattern, how about praying they have a life changing moment?
I think it’s fair to say that most people aren’t ever taught the importance of having personal boundaries. Proper parenting involves setting limits (rules) for children, school and the workplace have policies and rules but unfortunately the average person doesn’t learn about personal boundaries until they’ve been hurt by not having any.
Self preservation is not selfish. It is very important to have an inner confidence (sense or knowing) of what is okay and not okay when it comes to ourselves. Having healthy boundaries is learning how to own our personal “yes” and own our personal “no”.
Boundaries look different depending upon what kind it is.
You may have a work boundary and decide that Saturday is family day and you are not doing any work related things on a Saturday, period. You may have a personal communication boundary that if someone is hostile or swearing, you will not participate in the discussion until the tone of voice and language can be respectful.
It doesn’t happen overnight, but take sometime to think about all the areas you have in your life and what the limits are. Do you even have limits or do you just go with the flow even when the flow is trying to drown you? Have the courage and strength to see yourself as the valuable creation God created you to be. Have confidence in your worth and know deep down on the inside that you are worthy of being treated with dignity and respect.
Believers often petition God for their “break through”. This is a blanket kind of statement because it’s often used to refer to a spiritual, health, physical, blessing, or financial promise they’re believing God for.
We often get frustrated when God isn’t moving as fast as we in our human reasoning think He should move. I’ve learned the hard way (many times) sometimes we are the ones holding up that “break through” because we are not positioned for it.
I want to share a personal testimony that happened to me recently. Last week I had surgery for the first time in my life. A surgery that I’ve put off for a long time that involved my reproductive capacity. Without this surgery, I would never be able to have a child because physically things were out of order so to speak. I had a word I was hanging on to but I wasn’t in position for it to come to pass.
So I finally allowed myself to be uncomfortable and go through the pain (literally) or putting myself into position. Too often times we want the outcome but not the process. We are responsible to do the possible and what we have control over and it is up to a very capable God to do what is considered impossible by normal human standards.
Everybody wants the joy of Resurrection Sunday but nobody wants to endure the pain of Good Friday. We can’t experience the full joy of life unless we’ve known the pain of death. There are somethings, situations, people, and places that are dead weight in our life but they’ve been there so long it’s become normal or comfortable. On the other side of allowing yourself to be uncomfortable, experience growing pains, feel lonely for just a little while is exactly where you need to be standing in position ready to receive the manifestation of your break through.
God is not going to bless our mess. Too often times we know exactly what got us into a bad situation but our unwillingness to be uncomfortable and change those things is exactly what has us going around the same mountain year after year.
God strips you to equip you and He breaks you to make you. Jesus talked about not putting new wine in old wine skins. (Mathew 9:14-17) He said if you do this, the wineskin will break and the wine will run out, but if you put it in a new one it’ll be preserved. You wouldn’t cook tonight’s dinner in last nights dirty pot would you? We can’t expect new blessings with an old mindset.
Many times we go before God and cry out for Him to basically ignore our disobedience, sin, unwillingness to change and just bless our mess. It doesn’t work like that. This doesn’t mean we won’t make mistakes but we certainly have to be willing to go back to the drawing board, fight to overcome bad habits, and be willing to be uncomfortable. Great things have never emerged from anyone’s comfort zone.