Single is not a disease. You know what should be a disease? Relationship hopping. Some people are willing to settle for anybody, just to have somebody and end up with a nobody. Settling never turns out good. No person is ever going to be perfect but way too many people settle for things THEY KNOW are wrong or messed up. The sad truth is people settle for the love they THINK they deserve.
You deserve better than someone who doesn’t respect you. You deserve better than someone who makes you change who you are just to be with them. You deserve better than someone who gets thrills off of creating relational drama. Our problem is we have no standards and no boundaries and way too many people are seriously out here just doing anything so they can post it and create an image of themselves that is imaginary.
You can tell everything you need to know about a partner by the kind of relationship they have with God. If it’s not God’s best? Wait. Don’t settle. I know how hard waiting is or secretly hoping this time will be thee time, believe me I get it. God is more then able to provide all of your needs in the mean time if you let Him. Don’t let a day that’s not an actual holiday ruin your day and if you really want candy & flowers you can buy them for yourself tomorrow at 50% off.
Now more then ever folks are abandoning what they know, sellin out, switching sides in hot purist fueled by the love of money (which btw the LOVE of money is the root of all evil ) Some are even giving up all together. But in the midst? The people of God are rising up because they realize that time is running out. We are living in a time where everyone has access to the truth and belief in that truth is a personal choice as it has been since the beginning. You are either going to whole heartedly serve the truth and all it’s components (your walk, your talk, your speech, your actions) or continue to find yourself in a deeper state of confusion swaying whichever way the wind blows you or whatever emotion some social media post exposed you to. Except this time, the confusion is so deep, you don’t even realize you’re confused. Confusion has permission to enter through every door that isn’t aligned. When you entertain things that go directly against what you know to be true of God you allow your human reasoning to start justifying your speech, thoughts, actions and behavior instead of the Holy Spirit and incase you haven’t really met Him, He normally veto’s most of the things you’re comfortable doing. The word of God says “My people perish for a lack of knowledge” (Hosea 4:6) and the truth is? Most people have no idea the bible refers to being controlling as witchcraft, reading your horoscope is considered practicing witchcraft, practicing any of the new age beliefs (guided meditation, tarot cards, ) not only is sinning against God but you unknowingly have handed over legal access to the devil himself. Most people don’t even know that there is a system, an order in all kingdoms. If you have never spent any time learning the in’s and out’s of the system then you my friend are sitting in the middle of a war with no weaponry. My job is not to argue with anyone who knows Christ already or who has already made their decision. My job is to extend the invitation to those who’ve never met Him, remind those of you who have been given a platform (regardless of it’s size) have the responsibility of whatever you say or don’t say, and how you live on and off that platform you will be held accountable for it, and to issue a warning that the King of Kings is coming soon, get it together. “What does it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his own soul?” (Mark 8:36)
If you want more fulfilling relationships with other people this year try this:
STOP posting the blow by blow all over social media, ENJOY your private moments and if you feel the need to share a photo? Do it when it’s over. Then try actually spending time with people while not being on your phone. This system is flawless it worked for thousands of years before there was social media.
You are either a builder or destroyer. You either spend your time building people up or tearing them down.
You either mostly talk about people or talk to them.
You are a person who speaks life into others or you are a person who speaks death.
Do your words line up to how you desire to live your life? Are you behaving in a manner that communicates the kind of person you want to be?
Let this marinate for a second…. lots of people have been video taping themselves while driving a car lately. They have an insight they want to share or something they need to get off their chest. So, you want to impart your knowledge while you are video taping yourself driving and posting it obviously so we can all hear how smart you are while watching you do something completely stupid (and not to mention selfish) that actually may kill you or another person? Or how about It’s all fun & games until the worse case consequence impacts you directly or someone you love, then you’d be the first one ready to tear somebody’s head off & sue them for exactly what you just did.Don’t misunderstand the point of this, I’m not trying to hurt your feelings, I’m trying to get you to use a little wisdom with that knowledge.
Don’t call yourself a “revolutionary” and never do anything revolutionary. If you want to damage corporate America? RESEARCH where you keep your money and spend it. Move your business to minority owned businesses, support independent music, & for God sakes if you live in an undesirable neighborhood help clean it up. Start being part of the solution instead of the problem. #OperationRevolution
Today it’s #PrayForOakland (although people get shot in Oakland every day like a lot of other places and we only know about it when they tell us). What is unfolding is an agenda and as dumb luck would have it (sarcasm) is also in the bible surprise surprise. Here’s my question tho, (real talk) What God are you praying to? Are you calling upon the Lord of the Universe? The Alpha and Omega? Father, Son, Holy Spirit? I ask this because most people treat Him like a side chick or dude. You call on Him when someone dies and care nothing about His word or His ways until it interrupts your entertainment (TV, news, social media, etc). Then you get right back to being entertained (distracted) until another tragedy happens. These tragedy’s will continue and they will get worse until the NWO is fully manifested. Now if you REALLY want to see God move, and you REALLY want His help? Start repenting, stop compromising with the things that offend Him, and love people. It’s so simple that it becomes difficult.
“If My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land” 2 Chronicles 7:14 (NKJV)
You can waste years of your #life waiting for #God to “fix” someone else & never see it. Often times the thing that needs changing in our situation is us no matter how right or wrong we perceive the other person to be. If a person, situation, or behavior has you stressed out, annoyed, angry, or worried you’re what needs to change. See when we are TRULY new creatures in #Christ we should be manifesting the fruit of the Spirit so when something annoying is going on? You are supposed to respond in His image (love, peace, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control ) and until you do? Whatever is disturbing your peace or causing you to lose your self-control is going to keep repeating it’s self until that prideful you no longer answers the door.
Love yourself from the inside out sounds kind of funny to say, but no piece of advice you’ll ever receive about loving YOU will ever be better. This came to me earlier today because I was taking a long look in the mirror and I had a moment that I actually embraced the fullness of how much God loves me. My whole life kinda flashed before my eyes (both good and bad) and I realized how thankful I am for my life, victories, defeats, trials, good, bad, blessings, lessons, and the process. Most of us have heard over and over that God loves us no matter what, He gave his life for us (John 3;16) but I don’t think I’m alone in the boat when I say although I heard that, it really didn’t mean that life changing “ah-ha!” like it should have. For most people, it is extremely difficult to fully comprehend an all loving creator that you can’t see when most of your life most of the experiences you’ve had paint a very different picture about the world. It can be drowning, exhausting, depressing, etc. What we forget most of the time that we as human beings are made up of 3-parts (Spirit, Soul, Body).
A lot of people leave out the Spirit part and say mind and soul which are actually the same thing. Your soul includes your mind because it’s the part of you that your memory, emotions, and free-will are. Your soul is the part of you that experiences the emotional side of your life that your physical body lives. So when your physical body’s life experiences rejection, abuse, hurts, disappointments, pains, etc. the memory of it lives in your soul (your mind). Just because something doesn’t haunt us on a daily basis anymore doesn’t mean that we’re over it. A lot of people experience things and unless you looked very closely or knew what to look for (i.e. close enough to know someone has trust issues) you’d never know that it still exists. So when we find out God loves us, that’s good news and our spirit receives it, but most of us can’t even comprehend what that even really means because our souls are busting at the seams with contrary information. What happens then is our spirit wakes up and begins to try to climb it’s way out of the quicksand of our soul. I use this analogy because this is exactly what it can feel like on the inside when you make a decision to follow Christ but there’s that “thing” that keeps blocking you from experiencing the fullness of it. (We’ll get into the “How thick is your soul’s quicksand” in another article)
We are constantly fed through media outlets “the quick fix” for just about every problem we can create. The truth of the matter is, the quick fix isn’t always the best fix. You can’t put a band-aid on a broken leg. Sometimes the real reason we can’t fully receive God’s love, is because in all honesty we have no idea what love is actually supposed to look like. The hardest person to love, is always going to be yourself. Loving yourself has nothing to do with being conceited or running around in designer shoes with a T-Shirt stating “I woke up like this”. Loving yourself is the inner sense of knowing that you are unique, precious, and irreplaceable to the creator of the universe and He wants nothing but the best for you no matter what has happened, what you’ve done, what you have accomplished, what you’ve failed at, in your brokenness, and in all your flaws He loves you. Loving yourself from the inside out encompasses everything from allowing God into the secret cracks and crevices of your soul, letting him into every memory, hurt, pain, attitude, or poor self images you have collected or been given over the years, all the way to the food you feed your body.We have been mislead thinking the answers to it all was to make it look good on the outside because that’s what everyone sees. What good does it do you to put lipstick on a pig or a fresh hair cut on a bag of rotten garbage? Isn’t it still a pig? Isn’t it still garbage?
Take sometime to really search out the things that have or still hurt you. Be honest with yourself and be honest with God. There is no problem you can bring to him that He can’t or won’t fix, but it has to start with you. When you can begin to see yourself the way God see’s you, the outside will eventually catch up to your inside. The happier you are on the inside will begin to change what’s projected outwardly.