Posted by Queen the Prophet
I’ve spent the last month or so observing the social “norms” of human behavior both online and in person. I’ve actually been online a lot more then I have been posting and out and about a lot more then I make mention of. I’ve been observing several age groups and since I really have made an effort to disconnect myself from the majority of my music demands and interactions with others, I was able to get a very clear yet disturbing insight on a few things. I even pondered if I should bother writing about it because quite honestly, most people aren’t going to care. Most of the time most people don’t seem to care about anything these days really until it happens to them personally or it’s too late. After that thought passed through my mind I had to rebuke myself because it doesn’t matter if “most people” don’t care, I do and because I do, even if what I’m writing only falls on one set of ears that pays attention it’s worth it.
Let’s start with the basics, if you can honestly look around you at the state of the world and not see that something is very, very wrong? I feel sorry for you. The lack of compassion we have for each other is at an all time disgusting high, people (both young and old) are entirely self absorbed, selfish, and the average human ego is out of control. The number of people on anti-depressants is alarmingly high, most working class people are “working poor”, poor people are kept poor because if they make $5 over a certain number they lose their medical insurance and can’t afford to pay for it out of pocket, the average working person is absolutely exhausted on a daily basis working 40+ hours a week to still struggle with bills, marriages are falling apart, children are being raised by electronics, the future leaders of tomorrow have role models with zero morals, and we all know that organic is the best food to buy because it doesn’t contain harmful poisons yet most people can’t afford the food without poison in it.
We live in a time where a tiny electronic device allows each individual person to feel like the Mayor of their own little world. Most people, spend most of their day inside their phone, in their private little town. People spend hours taking pictures of themselves and no longer know how to enjoy a moment with their family or friends without making it a social media update while it’s happening. The next time you go out to eat, take a look around you. Most people sit at a table on their phone. Kids no longer know how to use their imagination and play. Nobody goes outside. These small devices are holding people hostage and nobody realizes it or cares. Why don’t they care? Easy, because the entire trap is designed to stroke your ego. It feels good. You like “likes”, you like followers, you like messages, you like comments. Some of you like them so much you’re addicted to them. The sad part is all of this is a distraction. Most of us are so busy in our tiny bubbles, we have no idea what laws are being passed and every major crisis only has the impact of a status update. We have been trained to filter information so fast that it is impossible for us to hold on to anything because we’re being hit with a million things every single day.
All of what I mentioned above ties into the title. See because of all the things I observed during the last month or so, one thing stuck out to me more than anything else and that was Love. It’s not a secret or a surprise that the Family as a unit has been under attack for years. I firmly believe that what we are witnessing is the manifestation of a well calculated and executed plan that has been in the works for decades. If you distract people from the opportunity to find love or even think about it, you are destroying family. Why attack family? Because strong families make strong communities. Marriage and family aren’t even goals for most people anymore. If you ask people about their goals most of what they start talking about has to do with money. (1 Timothy 6:10 “for the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil, for which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows” NKJV)
If you’ve had the fortunate blessing to have someone 70 or older in your life, then hopefully you’re going to fully grasp the rest of this writing. I would like to hope that most of us have heard a beautiful story at some point in our lives as how maybe our great-grandparents, grandparents, or even our own parents met. Some of us have even known people that met when they were little, grew up, and are still together. At one time the sense of commitment was strong. Families were supported by their community (family, friends, neighbors, church, schools, etc) and marriages withstood the test of time. We now live in a society that caters to our ego and nobody teaches problem solving skills anymore. We are taught to move on to the next thing that makes us “happy” which is the same kind of truth farmer’s use to catch a rat. Farmer’s don’t leave rat traps out in the open, they cover them with a little bit of hay so the rat doesn’t see the trap and gets caught. I am not talking about abuse, it is never okay to tolerate abuse. I am speaking directly of people throwing away marriages due to lack of self-control, boredom, and unrealistic expectations they put on their partner to make them happy. Nobody teaches people how to make themselves happier people in general and folks are finding themselves in “the grass is greener on the other side” syndrome and nine times out of ten if they took the time to water their own grass it would be just as green.
We live in a microwave world. Everybody wants everything in under sixty seconds and the things that we are giving our time to are not things that are going to sustain us. Everyone is running, running, self absorbed, running, running, and running right into the grave. If you were to take your last breath today, what kind of legacy would you be leaving behind for your family? Have you accomplished all of the things you wanted to accomplish? Are you happy? Did you enjoy your life? Did you spend as much time with the people you love as you would have liked to? If you died today and God gave you a chance to come back but you had to give Him a good reason, what would your reason be? Would it be so you could work more? Post on Facebook one last time? Send out a few more tweets? Buy that one last insignificant piece of expensive crap that consequently didn’t fit in your casket? By the way, while you were so busy running, did you ever happen to get the chance to make time for God and sow into where you’ll spend eternity? When your eyes closed for the final time, did they close with the assurance of where your soul is going?
I may not have the answers on how to fix the entire world, but I am certainly revealing to you some ways that we can fix ourselves. The point I wanted to make is that we are robbing ourselves of life and the real experiences and opportunities that shape and mold us. We are not being good parents if we giving our kids more gifts then time. We are not building a strong family if we’re too busy for it. We are currently failing the next generation because those of us left with some sense and some good foundation are getting caught up in all of this to a certain degree and as you look down from your age to the age groups behind you, it gets worse by each decade of ages. We need to start remembering the things that gave us the good parts of our foundation, our fond memories and give those experiences and opportunities back to the generation behind us or they will not have them. Think about all of your favorite things from your childhood and then ask yourself what of those are you imparting into your children? If we do not impart these lessons, they will not have them. If we do not allow the opportunity for “nature to take it’s course” and keep trying to control nature it is absolutely going to blow up in our face to a degree nobody is prepared for and it’s already starting to.
In closing, I hope to some degree this has struck a nerve (or two) in a way that gets you to actually pause, re-evaluate, and do something different. I hope that you do not allow yourself to be a social media hostage and shift it back into the “just for fun” category so that real life doesn’t continue to pass you by. For myself personally, I want to one day be able to tell my future children and grandchildren a story of how I met, fell in love, and married their future father and grandfather, and no where in that story will their be anything ratchet that you see on television or involve social media.
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Posted by Queen the Prophet
It’s been a minuet since I’ve blogged one of my infamous rants but honestly it’s because believe it or not, I go through things too family. Behind the glitz, tweets, mix tapes, albums, interviews, blogs, music, shows and all of that (which honestly profits you nothing at the end of the day if your mind isn’t in tact), I too am a real person that has real struggles just like everyone else. I think one of the hardest things that we can all relate to is when things don’t go according to the way we plan them, especially when you put time, work, effort into a plan or you feel like you’ve finally come to a place in your life where you have a sense of comfort, schedule, or control and then the whole entire thing gets knocked out of whack. This is something that when you get taken for an unplanned roller coaster ride in life (i.e. a natural disaster, loosing a job, death in the family, etc.) it tends to feel like you are alone and it’s only happening to you. The truth is, it’s not. Every single one of us has had or will have these times or moments in life where it feels like nothing’s happening at all or on the flip side, it’s all happening at once.
One of the most important things to remember is that when these things happen? It’s a part of life. If things didn’t change, you would become complacent and you wouldn’t grow. Many of the wisdom’s you’ve accumulated in your own life are from what? Experience. We in our own human nature are selfish beings instinctively. Most of the time our first reaction to a crisis isn’t a celebration. How many times at the moment you hit a crisis you immediately were grateful? How many times have you looked back after a crisis was over and been grateful? Learning how to navigate life and see the wisdom and beauty in situations often requires us to die to our natural selfishness and step outside the situation and ourselves in order to see what’s actually happening.
We are entitled to nothing. The truth of the matter is, you are not born with a guarantee that you will have any certain kind of life or luxury. Things like your health or your home can honestly be here one day and gone the next and somebody always, always, always has it worse then you do. We say that, but we don’t really get that because it’s very easy to forget that there are people in this world RIGHT NOW displaced from their homes, never had a home, don’t have anything to eat or don’t have any idea where their next meal is coming from, or are freezing to death sleeping under a bridge. Not one of us is guaranteed or entitled to anything simply because you had it, used to have it, want it, feel it belongs to you, or whatever else. Every single breath you take, moment you spend in good health or your right mind is a reason to be thankful. These are often the times people like to blame everything on God. Sometimes the very thing you’re angry at God for is the very thing He has a plan to flip in a 360, all in your favor but you’d first stop have to complaining to find it.
We have got to start changing the way we think. Everything you feed yourself (this includes the garbage you allow into your soul via your eyes on television, social media, the radio, etc) is going to shape and pre-determine the mindset that you’re going to have and the approach you’re going to take in a situation. It may look like a set-back, but nine times out of ten it’s a set-up for something far greater and better then you could have ever imagined. If you continue to feed yourself the ratchet buffet the world offers you then you’ll likely always be the egotistical whining baby in the corner blaming your entire life and whatever series of unfortunate events that have unfolded on everyone and everything else. I’m not saying bad things don’t happen, and I’m not saying uncontrollable tragedies don’t happen either. What I am saying is we can absolutely choose to allow those things to destroy us or we can use them to help ourselves and help others.
Be blessed –