We have all heard it’s far better to give then receive and most of us even consider ourselves a giver to some degree. A true giver though, gives out of a genuine place which is a place that has no self serving motives behind it.
A gift is a gift. When the gift giving is used as leverage (I.e brought up later and thrown in someone’s face, or posted on social media so everyone can see you’re a giver, etc) is cancels the kindness, voids the genuine aspect.
I have learned that the true test of giving comes when you do something for someone who can never repay you. Most people relate giving to material things but this isn’t always the case. Most people are comfortable with giving until it makes them uncomfortable.
People are often times more comfortable with giving you a material item before giving you a sincere congratulations. Isn’t that crazy? Most people are okay with buying you a meal, but it’s almost impossible for them to be happy for you, especially if you get something they want or need for themselves. I have found though that this is a true measure of the condition of your heart. Are you able to pray for someone’s healing when you yourself are sick? Are you able to celebrate a marriage if your own is in turmoil? Are you able to congratulate someone’s success while you yourself are grinding away? Now ask yourself, are you truly a giver?
The word “prayer” in the original Hebrew text is the word “tefillah”. In English, “prayer” means to ask, but the Hebrew word for prayer “tefillah” means to self-evaluate. So when you see the prayer reference in the bible (i.e. Jesus in the garden before going to the cross) that time was used for comparing actions, behaviors, thoughts, & attitudes against God’s holiness. So if you want a more effective prayer life? Enter His presence with adoration / thanksgiving, examine yourself (confession), and then your supplications (requests).
I just learned something and I felt compelled to share it with my beautiful readers. Let me back track for a second and tell you that today for me wasn’t exactly ideal. Spent the entire day in the emergency room and about an hour ago noticed that I had a flat tire. For some people that would have been enough to drive them right over the edge and they would have started screaming, swearing, asking “why me?” and all of that. I wasn’t thrilled when I saw the tire however, I realized that it could have been a lot worse. I had actually just added road side assistance to my policy two-weeks ago, my car was at home in my drive way, and I was grateful I didn’t notice it at 6:00 a.m. when I had somewhere to be. I’d like to also point out that this calm, cool, collective individual I am describing as me was not always me, believe me. But the trials and tribulations that allowed God to mold me this way we’ll visit another day during another lesson.
The tow-truck guy gets to my house and all of the sudden I found myself lending an ear as this man poured his entire life out to me as he was changing my tire. I learned that his son was killed in a car accident a few years ago and he suffered a heart attack soon after. He also was letting a friend who is battling cancer live with him and that friend lost his wife to cancer a few years ago. You might be thinking “Wow, that’s not really professional” or “Who cares?”, but that’s not what God wants you to think. See sometimes we get so caught up in what’s happening to us and we as a people have become so self-drama centered that some of us have even lost the ability to feel compassion for other human beings because we can’t think past our own emotions or own situations. Here’s a shocking reality check though, YOU are not that important. I am not that important, WE are all important.
As this man got up to leave, I told him I was sorry I didn’t have any cash on me to tip him and he said, “don’t worry about it”. I told him I will pray for his friend and he looked back at me and said quietly, “Please do, his name is Juan.” I realized that sometimes when things happen to us, even bad things, there is always an opportunity for you to help someone else. We can’t allow ourselves to be so consumed with the little annoyances of life that we end up missing the chance to be a blessing to someone else who may very well be in more need then we are. If you’re a believer, then you fully comprehend exactly what I’m saying. We can’t say that we love God, make witty Facebook or Instagram posts to make people on the internet see how super “spiritual” we are and then miss the chance to share God’s love with someone who needs it just because we’re drowning in our own drama. What that man was carrying in his heart was more important then my stupid tire and maybe all he needed was someone to listen.
A lot of people have their hands held out to receive a blessing but have closed fists when it comes time to be a blessing. Trust me when I tell you that if you want to see the favor of the Almighty move in your life? Be a giver, be a blessing. Stop telling people you love the Lord, SHOW THEM. You can’t be a “boss” if you haven’t learned to be a humble servant and the reason for that is because you can’t experience a divine appointed promotion without being a humble servant. You will always be called to be a server, you will always be required to be humble, you will always be required to think outside yourself. The most amazing thing about all of this is, God is so merciful and gracious that even a non-believer can find evidence of God’s hand on their life simply because they allow themselves to be a blessing to others. We are not animals or savages but if we continue to choose to behave like them then we have nobody but ourselves to blame when we reap the fruit of planting those crops. I used to be one of those mad at the world for everything that went wrong in my life people. It made a world of difference when I started to develop (and I’m still a work in progress) an attitude of gratitude.
I hope this post was a little bit of soul food for you, and if you are a praying person? Please send up a prayer for “Juan” because God is still in the miracle working business.
I have been debating about writing this blog particularly for a few days because let’s be honest, most reasonable people do not wake up in the morning and try to tick people off. So in advance, if you become offended by this post? That’s not the intention. There is a very serious question that God has been nudging me to ask in a general arena (i.e. this blog) for the last few days and pretty much I need to let it out and even if one person wakes up, it’ll be worth the nine million crazy comments I’ll get.
Have you as an American ever in your life looked at a tragedy or a way of life in another country and thought “I’m glad I live here”, and then carried on about your life?
I’m sure most of us have. I remember being taught in grade school that we were lucky to live in America because of all the freedoms we have here. I remember growing up and always knowing in the back of my mind that there were parts of the world that children were starving. My Grandmother Rose used to always say, “Don’t waste food. There are people in this world who have nothing to eat.” I remember seeing things about China and Russia and how the kids had to behave in school and at the time I really didn’t have the full understanding of what a communist country was. As a teenager, a friend of mine was stationed in Saudi Arabia and I remember him telling me that it was perfectly legal there for a man to throw his wife off of a tower if he thought she was cheating on him. Now as an adult as I would hear and learn more things, it actually started to disturb me. I started really speaking up about causes and injustices within our own system in my early twenties and haven’t stopped yet and don’t plan to. The reason I’m asking you to ask yourself if that has ever happened to you is because I want us to be able to touch down on a point that we can all relate to. No matter what your culture or ethnicity is, we can all agree as American’s we have much more freedoms then the rest of the world.
Have you ever heard the word or term “conditioning”? When someone is “conditioned” to behave a certain way? This is when environmental factors play a direct impact on a person’s whole being. Generally most American’s have absolutely no idea what is really going on in the world. They have not a clue that other countries hate us because all they see is the foolishness the media filters them like all of these ridiculous Face Book challenges, our music, what people post on the internet/ Instagram/ You Tube, and of course whatever tragedy comes on CNN. From the other side? We look like godless animals and that is mostly because that is what they are shown… the same way all you as an American are shown is images of other people and how much they hate us. This my dears is called conditioning. We are conditioned to think things of each other mostly by media. Who owns media? Who’s in charge of that? Six large global corporations who are attached to the banks that run this world through government.
Most Americans are working multiple jobs to survive, they hardly have time for their families because they are working so hard to maintain a roof over their head and keep food on the table and pay off some fictitious debt that is actually a form of control. If you are lent fictitious money (electronic) you then spend the rest of your life paying back fictitious money with real earnings which in turn keeps the world turning at your expense. Then we have folks that can’t find jobs and they resort to other means to feed their families at any cost which nine times out of ten doesn’t end well but instead ruins their life, secures jobs and incomes for prisons, and it’s a double win for the conditioners because it negatively effects that person’s off spring.
I know people have mixed emotions about politics and “conspiracy theories” but honestly if you research what I’m saying you will find it’s all 100P% true and it is available all over the internet. Why don’t more people know about it? The answer is so simple it’s stupid… they don’t read it. Seriously, why would you? You go to work, you have kids, you have more bills then money most of the time, and while you’re on your way to work all you hear on the radio is pretty much music that brainwashes you into believing that money and partying is the thing to do and you are “less than” if you don’t do or have these things, you barely have time for yourself and there is always something to pay for. Did you know that when American unemployment was at the highest, the government played a part in developing games such as Farmville? This game pacified over 85 million people around the world. For the last ten years or so, slowly but surely the pacifying has increased. Most people spend most of the day in their phone. If you don’t have a phone the government will give you a phone. Most people spend at least an hour a day on social media, most of the ones that don’t are watching hours of television. American’s have become lazy, passive, and most of us are overweight. But watch this… increasingly over the years children have learned to stay inside, play inside. They are not exercising, they are not using their imagination and most parents are so over worked and exhausted as long as their kids aren’t in trouble? They could care less as long as they’re quiet. How does this relate? Over the last ten years you have been conditioned to stay inside, small places, and occupy yourself with mindless tasks like video games and Face Book. If you google it, the government has FEMA camps set up everywhere in the US. Martial Law Executive Orders have already been put into play and most Americans are fat, lazy, exhausted, and won’t be any trouble at all if their door is kicked in in the middle of the night. They’ll get used to the camps, after all you’ve been being trained to entertain yourself in a small space for years.
The problem lies in the fact that because actual reality is everyone’s having a hard time surviving so when we hear about things like our brothers and sisters in Detroit living with no water you may care briefly but as long as it’s not you or someone you know? It does not change you or move you… How can it? The bills keep coming, there’s still no money and you have your own family to worry about … right? The part that most people are ignoring is the reality of they are not exempt. Fam.. I seriously urge you to research some of the things I’ve mentioned and draw your own conclusions. These things are not going to happen, they already are. I know that it’s scary because nobody wants to be out of their “comfort zone” but what you fail to realize is that your comfort zone you think you feel is a mirage. It’s time to wake up.
I challenge you not to dump ice on yourself or light yourself on fire, I challenge you to turn off all of your social media, television, and radio for one week. Unplug yourself from the Matrix (It’s a lot harder than it sounds, I did it a few weeks ago). Spend the time researching what’s going on in the world. Research Agenda 21, research Martial Law in the US, Population Control, look up who the government labels as a “domestic terrorist” (I guarantee you more than half of you will find something on that list that means YOU) and research the Anonymous movement. These topics will lead you to more. Spend time with actual people you love. Play with your kids, go for a walk, and above all things? Pray and figure out which side of the revolution you’re going to put yourself because it’s far better to pick a side then not and unfortunately, all of what’s happening in the world is happening even if you choose to ignore it or pacify it.
The bible says “My people perish for lack of knowledge” (Hosea 4:6 NKJV) but the bible also says in 2 Chronicles 7:14 (NKJV) “14 if My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land.” Do not conform, be restored, then transformed.