Did you know the word excuse is actually defined as “an attempt to lessen the blame, seeking relief of a duty, seeking to justify or defend”?
Some of the most common excuses I hear all the time are about loosing weight, saving money, not being able to fully be in a relationship again because they were hurt, and not being able to find a good job. An excuse is basically the same thing as a lie and unfortunately these are lies we most often tell ourselves.
Something becomes an excuse instead of a reason when you honestly haven’t tried everything. God gave us all a beautiful mind and if we truly want results and put our mind to it? It can be done. The question then becomes “How bad do you really want results?”
Everyone’s had their heart broken at least once, choosing to move on, heal, get counseling if need be are all a personal decision that requires a personal commitment. The same thing applies to finding a job. Most people never even bother to tap the free resource of their department of labor, which in many states offers free job training to underemployed adults or out of school youth. Saving money requires self control and discipline. There are so many free resources available online to help you budget, invest & save but people spend more time on social media then they do using the internet as an actual resource.
The point is, if you want to see results in any area of your life it’s going to require a committed decision, not excuses. Hold yourself accountable, ask for help, and utilize every resource available to you before you go throwing in the towel.
My Grandfather used to always say, “money makes the blind man see.” If you want to see someone’s true colors? Involve money. Sometimes it doesn’t even have to be actual money in hand, lots of folks will expose their greedy self just with the potential thought that money could be on the table. Be careful folks, there’s an alarming number of people that fall under the category of “opportunist” and all they care about is pockets they can get their hands in.
Now more then ever folks are abandoning what they know, sellin out, switching sides in hot purist fueled by the love of money (which btw the LOVE of money is the root of all evil ) Some are even giving up all together. But in the midst? The people of God are rising up because they realize that time is running out. We are living in a time where everyone has access to the truth and belief in that truth is a personal choice as it has been since the beginning. You are either going to whole heartedly serve the truth and all it’s components (your walk, your talk, your speech, your actions) or continue to find yourself in a deeper state of confusion swaying whichever way the wind blows you or whatever emotion some social media post exposed you to. Except this time, the confusion is so deep, you don’t even realize you’re confused. Confusion has permission to enter through every door that isn’t aligned. When you entertain things that go directly against what you know to be true of God you allow your human reasoning to start justifying your speech, thoughts, actions and behavior instead of the Holy Spirit and incase you haven’t really met Him, He normally veto’s most of the things you’re comfortable doing. The word of God says “My people perish for a lack of knowledge” (Hosea 4:6) and the truth is? Most people have no idea the bible refers to being controlling as witchcraft, reading your horoscope is considered practicing witchcraft, practicing any of the new age beliefs (guided meditation, tarot cards, ) not only is sinning against God but you unknowingly have handed over legal access to the devil himself. Most people don’t even know that there is a system, an order in all kingdoms. If you have never spent any time learning the in’s and out’s of the system then you my friend are sitting in the middle of a war with no weaponry. My job is not to argue with anyone who knows Christ already or who has already made their decision. My job is to extend the invitation to those who’ve never met Him, remind those of you who have been given a platform (regardless of it’s size) have the responsibility of whatever you say or don’t say, and how you live on and off that platform you will be held accountable for it, and to issue a warning that the King of Kings is coming soon, get it together. “What does it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his own soul?” (Mark 8:36)
Are you prepared or are you a bang & fizzle? A bang & fizzle person is someone who has a million ideas, starts with a bang but ends with a fizzle. They never really see anything through to the end and eventually just have a million ideas that have all started with a bang but all ended with a fizzle. I’ve done it myself especially when I was a brand new entrepreneur. I have learned through my years of experience (both successes and failures) that a lot of the time the reason for the fizzle is unpreparedness.
This doesn’t relate to only business though, often times we are not even prepared for the things we desire or are praying for. Sometimes we even can find ourselves frustrated when we have an idea or vision that we feel in our heart is the right thing to do or something God gave us but then it doesn’t quite fall into place like we expect or as quickly as we thought it would. We can’t receive new blessings with an old mindset. People pray for a spouse without making any preparation to actually be a spouse . People want to start a business but never actually sit down and write a business plan. People want to go back to school but never figure out how they’re going to re-arrange their schedule to fit in time for class and homework. People think they’re ready for a promotion but lack the ability to control their own emotions which directly impacts your ability to lead anything. So many people want to break into the music game but never research how much of their own money they’ll have to invest in order to generate a buzz. There’s a whole lot of folks praying for the winning power ball numbers and think all of their problems in life will be solved with millions of dollars but they can’t even wisely manage a tax refund. The list goes on and on.
If you ever sit down with a successful person and ask them how they became so successful, the first thing they’ll normally tell you is about is all the time they were unsuccessful. Don’t compare your journey to someone else’s or envy what someone else has because you have no idea what they went through or sacrificed to get there. If you believe in the vision you have, take the time to prepare for it properly. Do your research, date yourself, learn how to budget, and do whatever else is necessary to help you be in the best position to receive what you’re asking for or working towards.
Experiencing a drought in your life isn’t always the devil. Sometimes God allows you to be cut off from what you have become dependent upon as your supply (job, relationships, people), so you can rely on the supplier and be aligned to receive what’s already scheduled to be released to you, but exactly at the moment and point of time He has already pre-scheduled. God’s ways are not our ways, His thoughts are not our thoughts. He has ways of teaching us valuable lessons in unusual ways. I can honestly say having a lot of money didn’t form my character, being broke did. I value honest friends because I’ve been betrayed. I appreciate genuine affection because I’ve been abused. Having a weekly paycheck didn’t teach me to walk by faith, loosing my job did. Ya’ll don’t hear me tho *shrug*
You have to REALLY (and I mean REALLY) not care what people say about you. Listen, you could make the best apple pie in the world and there is ALWAYS going to be someone, somewhere that hates apple pie. With that being said, people throw shade. Why? It makes them feel better about themselves.Sinful human nature caters to “better than, less than” people feel better about themselves when they have something or someone else to talk about. When you’re a mature, emotionally self-controlled person you realize that most often times people will accuse the very thing that’s in their own heart. If they’re corrupt, they accuse others of being corrupt, if they’re fake, they accuse other people of being fake, If they would shove millions in their own pockets if they ran a mega ministry, that’s exactly what they accuse others of, If they could never picture themselves with someone, they accuse the intention of the person who is. etc. They talked about #Jesus and sold Him out for 30 pieces of silver, we’re not that special that we’re going to be exempt, SO GET USED TO IT. The good news is, they don’t bother talking about you unless you’re making an impact or they perceive you as some sort of threat. Don’t believe me? Go ahead and google any person you think has significance.
What is the “comfort zone”? The comfort zone is a place that is comfortable. It’s a place that you are familiar with and feel at ease when you’re there. Your home is a comfort zone (for most people), as it should be. Your home should be a place of rest, refuge, a place where you are able to let your guard down and feel safe. In your home, you know where your things are (unless you have kids of course because they move everything), and at the end of a long work day it is the place you are glad to return to, kick off your shoes and relax. Most people after a period of time feel a certain level of comfort at their job. They get to know the routine, their co-workers, the daily workload, they learn to budget their salary, and after awhile enter into a place of comfort.The comfort zone is not always a bad thing. It is absolutely important that children feel safe with their families and in their homes. Most of the time, people aren’t even aware of their comfort zone until they’re taken out of it.
There’s only two ways a person is taken out of their comfort zone, either by choice (which is actually only a very small percentage of people) or by force (which means circumstances in which the person had no control over). The comfort zone can become a dangerous place sometimes because comfort can lead to complacency, complacency makes you ineffective and nine times out of ten a person who is complacent is miserable, bored, and unfulfilled. When people feel unfulfilled, we have a bad habit of looking outwards to solve the problem instead of inwards, and that? Gets a whole lot of folks in trouble. A very wise woman once said to me, “God gave each one of us a gift capable of making money.” So if we all have a gift or something we enjoy and do really well, why are so many people stuck in jobs they hate? Why don’t people do that “thing” they always wanted to do? Believe it or not, most people are scared to death to try anything that forces them to come out of their comfort zone.
Every single one of my greatest accomplishments has come beyond my normal comfort zone. Just so we’re clear, I can tell you that in order for me to become a person comfortable trying new things I had to first be a person that had to have faith that every, single time the rug was pulled out from under me or life threw me a curve ball that I wasn’t prepared for that God was in control and He would make a way. Believe me, I’m not the picture of perfection when it comes to that either, I can be stubborn, rebellious, and just plain old not even remotely wanting to deal with certain things. I learned everything the hard way. I did not magically wake up one day and even become a person that “has faith”, my faith was made. There was a point in my life where I was making other people a ton of money for their businesses, but all the ideas, practices, organization, and work behind the scenes was me. For a period of time I worked a full-time job and helped other people organize and set up businesses and in a few cases I was actually running multiple businesses at once (while I was holding down a full-time and part-time job) and not one of them was mine. I used every excuse in the book just like most people. I didn’t have enough money (the truth is you will never have “enough” money”), I didn’t have the time, etc. Excuses, excuses, excuses. I remember 2-weeks after I resigned from my job of ten-years to help a friend with a business full-time we ended up having a falling out. I don’t think I’ll ever forget the feeling of the impending doom that came with that as well as all of the mental hell I put myself through beating myself up for leaving my job in the first place. It wasn’t until the rug was pulled out from under me (in more ways then one) that I really learned what I was made of. Think about it….
Think back over situations that have happened in your own life. Where did you find your strength? What things caused you to grow or advance? Stepping out of your comfort zone doesn’t mean be stupid either. It doesn’t mean quit your job, pitch a tent on the green with a lemonade stand. If you want something out of your life that you’ve never had, you have got to do something you’ve never done. How will you know if you don’t try? Are you comfortable with the thought that you will one day (God willing) grow old and reflect on all of the things you could have, should have, or wanted to try? If you continue to do the same things over and over again, don’t expect different results. This isn’t just about stepping out of your comfort zone in business, this is about stepping out of your comfort zone in your faith, in love, in life, in everything. Is it always going to work out the way you pictured it? Probably not just to keep it all real. It may very well end up like none of your plans, but in the long run it may very well be the best thing that ever happened to you too.
Life can cause us to be hesitant when it comes to certain things, especially when we’ve had situations or experiences that have shaped our reality. Reality is a subjective term, meaning it’s personal to us. Our reality is not like anyone else’s. Our personal “reality” is shaped and molded by our life experiences. That’s not necessarily a bad thing until we begin to allow it to rob us of our life. Angers, hurts, pains, frustrations and disappointments have the ability to mold us into a bitter, negative, shameful, unfulfilled life if we allow it to. LIFE is right on the outside of your comfort zone.