Check your baggage before boarding!
If you have ever traveled by airplane you know that your baggage is only allowed to weigh a certain amount or it will not be boarded. Some of your bags are too big to be carry-on’s and must be stored at another part of the plane while some bags you can carry on the plane. Both sets however, must meet the weight requirements. How much trouble would it save us if before we decided to date someone, we could put their soul on a spiritual baggage scale? We’d then know in a moment if this soul was too heavy to fly with.(BRAINFOOD… Pay attention)
Unfortunatley, lots of us move from relationship to relationship and never check our baggage before boarding. This often times results in us repeating the same cycle in relationships, often with similar patterns or problems. Checking your baggage can be a lengthy and painful process sometimes. Only you and God know what truly has formed your thoughts, behaviors, and emotions over the course of your life. It is not fair for you to get into a relationship with someone else without taking a self inventory of what you’re bringing to the table. Take a look at the list below and answer the following questions honestly.
- I have been a victim/witness/abuser of child abuse
- I have been a victim/witness/abuser of sexual abuse
- I have been a victim/ witness/abuser of domestic violence
- I have been married before
- I have been divorced
- I am legally separated
- I have no contact with any family
- I have been homeless
- I have experienced substance abuse either self or family
- I have experienced a horrific disaster natural or otherwise
- I have filed bankruptcy
- I have been incarcerated
- I have experienced trouble with the law self or immediate family
- I have been a victim/witness/abuser of spiritual abuse either by family or ministry
- I have been adopted
- I was raised in foster care
- I have an un-treated mental illness
- I was raised by family other than my peternal Mother and Father
- I was raised in a single parent home
- I have children and have never been married
- I have unresolved immediate family issues
All of us (including myself) have experienced these kinds of things in life. These kinds of things chart paths in our lives and sometimes leave lasting impressions. Relationships are most successful when the two people involved are both whole people on their own FIRST. Two half people don’t make two whole. We have to give ourselves permission to heal and ask for help sometimes. I point these things out because unhealed pain from those things can start growing weeds in every other area of your life. Give yourself permission to get to know yourself. It is so unfair to make another person pay for a heart they didn’t break. It’s mostly though, unfair to yourself. Life is short, it’s percious. Live it at it’s maximum capacity, especially in love.
Fam I want to share something with you that if you haven’t learned this already & you listen, I promise it will take years of aggravation off of your life. Bad things happen. People get sick, people die, planes crash, folks are CRAZY as hell doing all kind of things that leave people traumatized, your bills pile up, you always need more money for something, and so on and so on. It is A PART OF LIFE. God shouldn’t be blamed when things go wrong seeing as how He’s hardly thanked when things go right. Most people will acknowledge evil exists. Most people will also never give you a firm yes or a firm no when you ask about God because it always comes with an explanation. I am not blogging or making music with a message because I’m better then anyone. Nor am I doing it to dispel YOUR personal beliefs (believe what you want), I’m only telling the truth. I more then likely am worse then any of you. God has a very good sense of humor. He picks a few screw balls out of the bunch just so everyone else can look and know that if He did it for her…. I don’t mind though. People have used me without permission & hurt me, this never hurts it just humbles.
Fam your life has tests and I wish I could tell you that they all would go well and you’ll never be hurt. If I told you that I’d be lying to you. I am not at liberty to get on the internet and possibly say something that would lead sheep right on into the slaughter house. I’m not about that life. People are though and it is scary. We need to realize what truly is Fam. We live in a world where folks do the things that are our worst fears & nightmares. Parents kill their children, children kill their parents, people rape babies & all kinds of other horrific everyday life events like starving to death. These kind of things make us develop these defense systems that actually destroy us. We build walls so high we can become almost emotionless. A good portion of the people you interact with on a daily basis are heavily medicated.
I have learned that the faster I look for the lesson in the test, the sooner it’s over. Before I could even be clever enough to look for the wisdom, I had to choose love. This is a lot harder then it sounds. There are things that have happened to me that I could break your heart with all day, there has been things that have happened to my loved ones that would justify me spending the rest of my life in prison. I promise you that anger & rage and anything else that is considered a negative emotion has been stealing from you for however long you have felt it. If something happened, and it provoked one of those negatives… that thing was sent to rob you. It was sent to destroy you. Don’t let it. If you choose to walk in love, it makes some of those harder things bearable. Choose what you emotionally invest yourself in. Do you obsess over the problem or do you obsess over finding the answer? Are we choosing choices that bring joy to our life or are we inviting in more pain?
Did you know that most women that have been sexually abused tend to gravitate towards aggressive sexual behavior? Do you know how the world responds to that? We call them hoes. We laugh at them on Facebook, we retweet them on Twitter, we make Instagram mockeries over the fact that young lady is so hurt she has no idea she is hurting herself even further. She doesn’t know she is ruining her life & it’s not too late. It’s okay right? Long as it’s not you. Selfish human behavior ALWAYS compare “better then, less then” mindsets because it allows them to further hide from their own insecurities. I’ve been there. That first look in the mirror? IS UGLY. It’s supposed to be Fam. Mirrors are supposed to reveal flaws so you don’t walk around with something in your teeth. The more you do it though? The easier it gets and one day you will pause and smile because you feel strong. You should. You accomplish that and you just gave hope & faith a great work out.
We don’t have to all see eye to eye. Who cares? Really? Your opinion and my opinion are not important. The TRUTH is important. The TRUTH is that you have nothing to lose striving for a higher elevation in love and learning to accept personal responsibility. Those 2 things breed your strength to get through everything else. #OPERATIONREVOLUTION is not just about Battlegrownd Entertainment. Our music is our part of what we’re doing to change things. Through this, we have co-signed small businesses, we support & have the support of thousands of people via the internet… this is #OPERATIONREVOLUTION people coming together, supporting each other so that everyone can succeed. Nobody should be poor and nobody should be suffering some of the things they are suffering when there is plenty on this earth to go around. When we support each other, we take back control. When you support the music from Battlegrownd Entertainment, understand that most of that money comes back down the line when we pull folks off Twitter and hire them, buy their graphics, beats, promotion, GET IT? If 100k people buy 10 songs from independent artists, you made 10 well off people who will share with their family & friends instead of just one. Anything is possible Fam…. People that are crazy enough to believe they can change the world… Often do.