We have all heard it’s far better to give then receive and most of us even consider ourselves a giver to some degree. A true giver though, gives out of a genuine place which is a place that has no self serving motives behind it.
A gift is a gift. When the gift giving is used as leverage (I.e brought up later and thrown in someone’s face, or posted on social media so everyone can see you’re a giver, etc) is cancels the kindness, voids the genuine aspect.
I have learned that the true test of giving comes when you do something for someone who can never repay you. Most people relate giving to material things but this isn’t always the case. Most people are comfortable with giving until it makes them uncomfortable.
People are often times more comfortable with giving you a material item before giving you a sincere congratulations. Isn’t that crazy? Most people are okay with buying you a meal, but it’s almost impossible for them to be happy for you, especially if you get something they want or need for themselves. I have found though that this is a true measure of the condition of your heart. Are you able to pray for someone’s healing when you yourself are sick? Are you able to celebrate a marriage if your own is in turmoil? Are you able to congratulate someone’s success while you yourself are grinding away? Now ask yourself, are you truly a giver?
I hope everyone is enjoying their Holiday season & remembering those less fortunate.
Isn’t it funny how you can get some people to give during the holidays but never at any other time of the year? Not all people though. Some of us are givers as a lifestyle.
First of all everyone has it in them to give. Most of the time when people lose the ability to be giving it’s normally because they have been hurt as a result of giving too much to the wrong person so instead of being a more careful giver, they become a bitter non-existent giver.
A giver isn’t always necessarily someone who gives material things away. Don’t make that mistake! There are quite a few folks that give material things only because it’s a tax write off or because it makes them look good. Here’s how you can pick those out, they talk about it or tell you about it & everyone else. When people give things and never let anyone forget it? It wasn’t a real gift. Giving comes from your heart and when you truly are giving out of your heart? You forfeit the right to bring it up again if it was done in love.
Giving should always be done from the heart and in love. I was talking about this this morning with one of my girlfriends. It came up because we work in Public Housing. We have senior and elderly residents in our building and for their Holiday party, I asked them to nominate a neighbor. Basically, the folks where I work can’t afford to give gifts most of the time so I bought the gifts, they nominated the neighbor. This morning she and I were going through the gifts I purchased and not for nothing? Walgreens had some really nice $5 gifts. That’s how the whole thing started. We were impressed with what we were able to get for $5 and I asked her “Isn’t that crazy? This is a nice gift that says I thought of you and for some people they wouldn’t even appreciate it because it’s not enough? What happened to it’s the thought that counts?”
I’m not sure what happened to the way of people’s thinking. Maybe it started to change when parents assumed that having a TV, DVD Player, & gaming system in a child’s room was just part of the furniture and not something that should be earned as a privilege. Maybe it was when people forgot that having new shoes & clothes for school didn’t mean it had to be $100 shoes or jeans. Maybe it was when the imposter hip-hop took over and started brain washing both parents and kids that the only way to live or the definition of “arrived” is when you have a weekly budget for booze, cars, clothes, hoes, and the club. Maybe it was when parents started giving eight year olds $600 phones. Not sure, don’t care.
There is truly a lack of kindness in the world and it honestly makes me sick. I chose not to live like that and yes, there are drawbacks like giving your love and kindness to a person and they turn around and snake you. But you know what? That’s on them, not on you. Don’t let it change you. One day and we all know we’re not promised tomorrow, you will give an account for your behavior. If you died today, would you be happy with the answer?
Just a little soul food Fam.
2013 has been a rough year for a lot of people and that is no secret. Sometimes I think people don’t get involved with community drives and giving simply because they think they have nothing to give or they are so consumed with their own issues they can’t see anything else but that. I can tell you honestly sometimes the answer to your issue is to give your way out. Do you have any idea what an impact you make on the universe when you give? Do you have any idea how much more powerful that impact is when you don’t really have it to give?
From now until the end of 2013, I will blog FOR FREE any sort of community minded mission that you or your organization is putting together. Doesn’t matter what kind or where it’s located. If it’s legit, you’re doing it and it helps people I will blog it for you for FREE. If you would like to do something and don’t know what to do or how to even start something like that, I will also help you FOR FREE. (For those of you that don’t know, my other career is Social Services so I’m a pretty good resource in the area of do-gooding). The exception to the free blogging is asking for money. Unless you are a recognized 501-3c organization I’m sure you can understand why.
September is a great time to kick something like this off. This is the time of year that donations & drives are thriving.
- Kids are in need of back-to-school supplies & clothing
- Thanksgiving Turkeys & Food
- Adults & Children (MANY still displaced from Hurricane Sandy and other disasters) are in need of winter coats
- The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence is always accepting donations of used cell phones, batteries, & chargers
- Christmas, Hanukkah, & Kwanzaa will be here before you know it and families are in need of help for their children
- Food drives of all kinds are especially needed during the winter months & holiday times
- Homeless Shelters EVERYWHERE are in need of coats, clothing, blankets, & food
- Food Banks EVERYWHERE are in need of non-perishable foods
EMAIL: QUEENTHEPROPHET@HOTMAIL.COM put “BLOG” in the subject line. (September -December 2013)