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Be a best friend

Be a best friend…. EVEN when someone is not a friend to you. When you can learn to do that and STILL be consistent in the love and friendship you offer? That’s when you begin to tap into that kind of speak to the mountain #faith and actually watch it move! Never let someone else’s conduct knock you off how YOU are supposed to be living and what YOU are supposed to be doing. ❀️

#WednesdayWisdom Are you truly a giver?

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We have all heard it’s far better to give then receive and most of us even consider ourselves a giver to some degree. A true giver though, gives out of a genuine place which is a place that has no self serving motives behind it.

A gift is a gift. When the gift giving is used as leverage (I.e brought up later and thrown in someone’s face, or posted on social media so everyone can see you’re a giver, etc) is cancels the kindness, voids the genuine aspect.

I have learned that the true test of giving comes when you do something for someone who can never repay you. Most people relate giving to material things but this isn’t always the case. Most people are comfortable with giving until it makes them uncomfortable.

People are often times more comfortable with giving you a material item before giving you a sincere congratulations. Isn’t that crazy? Most people are okay with buying you a meal, but it’s almost impossible for them to be happy for you, especially if you get something they want or need for themselves. I have found though that this is a true measure of the condition of your heart. Are you able to pray for someone’s healing when you yourself are sick? Are you able to celebrate a marriage if your own is in turmoil? Are you able to congratulate someone’s success while you yourself are grinding away? Now ask yourself, are you truly a giver?

#WednesdayWisdom Are you dating your phone?

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So many people are missing out on what real life has to offer because their most important relationship is with themselves. There’s nothing wrong with healthy self-esteem, taking care of yourself, and setting boundaries but when it’s an ego issue? That’s dangerous.

Most people (even older ones) have conformed to this new mindset in regards to the importance of your cell phone (which lets not forget is an object). Most people will go back home if they forget it and some will have an all out emotional melt down if they lose it. There is nothing healthy about that. It was unheard of professionally for you to have a cell phone on or with you while working and these days you can find every cashier at almost every store with phone in hand. People spend more time on their phones at work then they do actually working.

We are becoming more and more out of touch with what is actually reality. Dating has become a tap, swipe, or like. People develop relationships off a filtered presence on social media based on a character that they have created themselves to be as opposed to who they actually are. Nobody actually meets anymore because meeting would cause them to have to come out from behind their self created phone world and the hard core truth is most people are afraid to do that because they honestly lack the social skills and the ability to handle human to human interactions including rejection, so they avoid it all together and tap, swipe, or like their way on to the next. If this continues, all of the things that help make life beautiful like memories, family, friendships, dating, will all be non-existent and we will find ourselves in a world much colder then the one we already have.

#WednesdayWisdom Setting Boundaries

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Boundaries are important because they set limits. Too often times many of us find ourselves stressed out simply because we don’t have any clearly established boundaries in our life. There are limits and boundaries in every part of our lives even if we fail to recognize them or acknowledge them.

There’s order and structure in Heaven and even the kingdom of darkness has an order and rank that’s followed. Home, church, work, school, etc all have limits and rules to some extent. For some reason though, people seem to have the hardest time when it comes to developing personal boundaries. Some folks have no idea how to respect them and that’s not entirely their fault because many people don’t even know how to have them so the “norm” in most cases is for people to actually feel a false sense of entitlement to do or say whatever they want. Have you ever said no and then been asked a million questions as to why you said no, then felt obligated to talk more?

We have got to learn an internal system of healthy limit setting. Self-preservation is not selfish and you don’t owe everyone an explanation. This isn’t a free pass to be disrespectful or obnoxious but you can say no and own your no. It’s up to you to decide what you are willing to commit to, tolerate, and even the way you allow other people to communicate with you and treat you. I make it a point to speak to everyone with respect. It doesn’t always mean I’m going to tell them something they desire to hear, but I will speak in a respectful manner and if they’re not going to speak to me in the same manner then we won’t speak until that can happen.

It is so important we understand our worth because once we truly understand our worth, we will have a much easier time protecting it.