I don’t think I’m alone in this, but it doesn’t even matter if I am or not. I am saddened, repulsed, disgusted and disappointed on a daily basis. At least for a moment. That moment happens when I open any given social media and see human behavior at an all time grotesque state. Unfortunately now in a digital world, you are slammed on a daily basis witnessing tragedy after tragedy, your eyes cannot help but see ignorance and hatred everywhere.
I know for myself personally as a believer in Yeshua, Jesus Christ I’m supposed to know these things would happen and I’m supposed to allow the Holy Spirit to lead me and guide me in these times, I’m supposed to let the love of God shine in me like a light for those around me in darkness and to be honest with you? Sometimes I want to quit. I get so disgusted every time I open a social media platform, every time I hear about another school shooting, see someone getting killed unjustly by law enforcement, watching people post some of the most vicious and hateful words I’ve ever read, and the children… My God the children. I can’t stomach one more senseless death of a child.
I had a moment the other day quietly by myself with God and just broke down like “Lord… how? How am I supposed to do this? I’m trying to do what you told me to do and I can’t “. I sat there quiet and an image of a Lighthouse flashes across my mind and then that quiet still voice, that has the capability of drowning you in perfect peace that you can only relate to if you have a personal relationship with God said “a lighthouse is most effective in the darkness.” I sat there and cried. Legit cried. The darker it is, the brighter the lighthouse light becomes.
So I decided to share this because believers have different positions, jobs, titles, but ALL have the same assignment. Your job may be inside a church, out in the street, at the grocery store, in your blog, at your office, in the mall, on instagram … it doesn’t matter. Don’t compare yourself to other believers, don’t get distracted from your job because you’re busy debating someone else’s job. We all get weary and yes, sometimes it “appears” that the wickedness is winning and there’s a lot of people who call themselves believers and their social media feeds make it impossible to tell them apart from people who don’t know Christ at all…. BUT we were told these things would happen (2nd Timothy 3:1-9). This is not the time to get weary (Revelation 12:11) it’s not the time to argue denomination or name translations (1 Corinthians 12:12). One day soon, people will be so tired of the state of the world that they will welcome with open arms one world order and a one world religion. If you turned off people’s phones and debit cards tonight, they’d line up by the thousands in the morning to take a microchip if it meant getting access to their money and the internet. (Revelation 13:16)
So my strength is renewed in this and I hope this will encourage those of you who have also become weary, they don’t have to like you. They don’t have to agree with you, they don’t have to listen, and they don’t have to believe. If you saw them crossing the street and a car was coming, you would yell , WATCH OUT! At that point they can make a decision to watch out or keep going. With something so precious as a soul and where you’ll spend eternity, I would never want to see anyone I knew or ever had any interaction with, standing before God being denied access to Heaven and seeing me there and asking why didn’t I tell them the truth. What would be a good enough excuse? Because I was afraid they wouldn’t like me anymore? What excuse or apology could I give? I can live with someone not liking me, I can live with people calling me names, I can live with someone disagreeing with me, but I don’t want to bear the burden of not telling them the truth.
So in whatever country, state, region, city, industry, or platform God has given to you personally? Be wise, win souls, and do not give up. It’s always darkest before dawn and someone, somewhere is looking for the light you carry.
Everybody is not going to love you and everybody is not going to like you. You could be the sweetest peach in the world and somebody, somewhere hates peaches. We don’t gain anything by only loving those who love us. People that need love the most, deserve it the least. If you desire to honestly walk like Christ? Honey, you are going to have to forgive people who don’t deserve it and love people who are not sorry. You will only have to give account for your own behavior come judgement day regardless of what someone did or did not do to you. You don’t get judged on that, they do. You will be accountable for how you responded.
You can’t always be politically correct and biblically correct. I chose to be biblically correct. Started saying no to things that offend God and started loosing “friends”, started saying no to opportunities that contradict God and started loosing money. Then my soul began to prosper. See but the way the kingdom of God is set up, He ALWAYS gives you double for your trouble & anything you give up for His sake, He returns with interest on your investment. Restoration, transformation.
I don’t live for people’s compliments. If I did, I would die when they criticized me.
We all need a compliment or an encouraging word every now and then but we cannot live for those things. It’s far better to be a God pleaser then a people pleaser. God loves you unconditionally, every day, even at your worst. People? People are imperfect so we can’t rely on them more then we rely on God. There are time’s when we find ourselves alone and we have got to fight ourselves out of a corner and back to life, not roll over and die. If we allow our self-worth and self-esteem to be based solely upon what other people think or say instead of what God has already said & declared over our lives then when people deliver a criticism instead of a compliment, we’re gonna get messed up.
This is so true… but it also happens AFTER you have put your foot down and kept it there about certain things. Self preservation is not selfish and should never be confused as such. Givers must set boundaries because takers never will (let that marinate for a second). What we allow will continue until you decide what is and what is not okay for you, your life, your family, your relationships, etc. Don’t be afraid to love some folks from a distance especially if they’re toxic. God instructs us to love them not have everyone over the house for dinner and fellowship.
There is a HARD lesson in life that earning an upgrade of spiritual maturity comes with. Not everyone is going to love you, and not everyone is going to like you. In fact, the #bible actually tells us that people will hate you for the stand you take for Christ. (Matt 10:16-33, John 15:18, 2 Tim 2:3-4) But when you understand that ALL things work together for the good of those who love the Lord and were called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28) you’re able to digest those harder lessons. See when someone hates you, it forces you to look at yourself and figure out what it is that they’re seeing that they hate so much. In the words of Bishop Jakes, “folks have hated me on a level I didn’t even know I was on.” Did you catch that tho? Sometimes YOU don’t even fully know the power of the weight of the call and the impact of the anointing God has placed over your life until it causes someone to hate you at a level where they sacrifice moments of their own life just to engage in hating you. There are people in this world who are so miserable in their own lives, instead of fixing what’s wrong with them they invest their time and energy into trying to make other people just as miserable as they are. However, when you can look at yourself and understand exactly what it is that God has given you? When you can get before God and actually genuinely pray for people who do you wrong? You won’t ever spend another moment worried about what someone else may or may not think or say about you because all you will truly care about is at the end of it all hearing the words, “well done my good & faithful servant”.
Everyone has something to offer Fam. Good or bad they have something. Something I have learned over time (and again, this in no way implies that I got it during the first lesson.. some times it takes ten) that you can save yourself a whole lot of time and aggravation with other people if you do a few simple things.
- Be quiet. Listen. Some of us are the type of listeners that are always thinking about what we’re going to say as soon as the other person shuts up. You can get yourself in a lot of trouble this way. Here’s why, typically most people with ill intentions will let you know EXACTLY what their intentions are. It’s not their fault you’re not listening.
- History. Do you have a history with this person? Having a history doesn’t mean that people don’t change, but it means you should absolutely have a good idea of what the person is capable of. For example if the person has always been a selfish person in the past, and now all of the sudden they pop up randomly. It doesn’t make you a bad person to listen for the motives.
- Logic. Moving in logic is hard for people often times because they have no self-control and they move wildly about inside of their emotion. The problem with moving inside of emotions is dangerous. Emotions change all the time, and emotional decisions will get you in trouble with no logic that you didn’t consciously sign-up for. Don’t expect people to be like you, don’t expect people to not do things you would never do, etc. Take things as they come at face value. It’s like getting into an argument with an idiot. Trying to convince a stupid person why they were stupid, makes you stupid in the process.
- Self-Responsibility. We have to learn that when we make bad choices or impulsive decisions and they are OUR OWN fault. The wisdom comes when you realize, recognize, and re-group. Making a bad choice or decision doesn’t mean you’re any less valuable. You messed up. Learn, get over it, and move on.
Learn how to see situations & people for what they are. Don’t force unrealistic expectations upon other people, you’re the only one who will be disappointed. You can only ever hope to control yourself. You are responsible for setting your boundaries and limits of “what” is okay to do to you. People only do what you let them. Swallow your pride, resist the urge to get the last word in, hang up. Easier said then done, but like anything else, practice makes perfect.
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