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Renew your mindset

God is not going to bless our mess. Too often times we know exactly what got us into a bad situation but our unwillingness to be uncomfortable and change those things is exactly what has us going around the same mountain year after year.

God strips you to equip you and He breaks you to make you. Jesus talked about not putting new wine in old wine skins. (Mathew 9:14-17) He said if you do this, the wineskin will break and the wine will run out, but if you put it in a new one it’ll be preserved. You wouldn’t cook tonight’s dinner in last nights dirty pot would you? We can’t expect new blessings with an old mindset.

Many times we go before God and cry out for Him to basically ignore our disobedience, sin, unwillingness to change and just bless our mess. It doesn’t work like that. This doesn’t mean we won’t make mistakes but we certainly have to be willing to go back to the drawing board, fight to overcome bad habits, and be willing to be uncomfortable. Great things have never emerged from anyone’s comfort zone.

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The Grace of God

“And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”

‭‭II Corinthians‬ ‭12:9‬

My Momma used to quote this scripture to me all the time and I never fully had revelation of it until more recently. God telling us that His grace is sufficient for us, implies that is all we really need. That’s a hard thing to understand especially when we have circumstances, bills, situations, etc that weigh so heavily on us and what we’re actually thinking is that a quick million dollars would fix most of our immediate problems.

Grace is a gift that God has freely given us that is undeserved and unearned. He simply gives it to us because He loves us. Even this may be hard to understand fully until we understand what it looks like in our lives on a personal level.

We will never be perfect, we will always fall short but God loves us unconditionally anyway. There is nothing we can do that He will not forgive us for if we repent. Every situation or trail in our life He works together for our good, even the bad ones. He is so awesome that even when we find ourselves in a consequence of our own doing? He still works it together for our good. That is grace folks, unearned and most often times so undeserved. Doesn’t make sense to regular human reasoning that if we did something truly terrible, He’d still loves us and make a way out of no way. Good thing His ways aren’t our ways and His thoughts not our thoughts because not one of us could ever do a better job then Him.

Rescued pup needs your vote!

This is not something I’d normally post but I know that there’s a lot of animal lovers out there and I think this is worth a post.

This is Hamilton. Hamilton was adopted by my Sister, her husband, and their three children. He was a rescue pup and although he’s not supposed to be on the couch as pictured above, he’s a cutie.

So Hamilton is now in the running for the 2019 Stew Leonard’s “Bubba Biscuits” photo contest. So if you like awesome happy endings, click the link and vote for Hamilton so the pup who was rescued gets to be the new face of Bubba Biscuits.

https://bubba2019.shortstack.com/V0M4mm/p5w9k?w=74419954&e=212694113

Do you live a life of purpose or drama?

Sometimes people intentionally fill their lives with people they view as more screwed up then themselves (better than, less than human behavior) so they never have to heal and address their own reflection. Long as there’s drama, they feel safe. You can only be wise once you admit how stupid you’ve been. Live a purpose driven life instead of a life frontin for the gram (Instagram).

Strive for Excellence

Don’t confuse excellence with perfection. Excellence is an attitude. Excellence is a conscious effort to not cut corners, do things in proper order, and give things your best effort every time you put your hands to it. Excellence is going the extra mile.

“And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two.” Matthew‬ ‭5:41‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

For the believer it is so important to adapt an attitude of excellence because we represent the Kingdom of God upon the earth and nothing chases folks away from God faster then a bad witness.

I once worked for an extremely large company and there were lots of people who identified as believers that worked there but more who did not. The better employees for the most part (not all, but most) were people who weren’t believers.

Believers were often late, took longer breaks, and spent way more time tending to personal things while on the clock (phone calls, text messages) then the other employees. When they would get corrected or disciplined they’d often blame the devil and the demonic spirit that was rising up against them without ever acknowledging their own behavior.

As a representation of God our actions and behavior serve as a witness every time we step out in public. We should be the BEST employees at our jobs, the people who do what they pay us for, the people that are on time, etc. This is a matter of integrity. When you agree to take a job, you are agreeing to follow the policy and do what’s in your job description. So many people neglect this and don’t realize to the non-believer they are being a bad witness. Why would anyone want to serve the God of the guy who’s always on his phone and late to work?

An attitude of excellence isn’t just for the workplace. Every time you step in to a public place your attitude, actions, and behavior absolutely matter and matter even more so at home. This isn’t a matter of perfection, this is a matter of us reflecting the image of an Almighty God to a world that is in desperate need of His love. Don’t be the kind of witness that pushes people away from God, be the person that goes the extra mile in excellence so people want to know about the God you serve. He is so faithful that if you put fourth the effort? He is quite capable of drawing people to Himself through you so don’t worry, He always has the hardest part under control.

Prepare for what you pray for

Prayer is such a deep topic that has so many important components it could never be summarized in a single post.

For now I want to talk specifically about when a believer prays assuming that you are praying for things related to God’s will for your life.

I have found with a lot of people (including myself) that we think we’re dotting all the I’s and crossing all the T’s but still don’t see the manifestation of what it is we’re praying for.

God is in the details folks. Even the details that we take for granted. People pray for financial blessings but still haven’t mastered properly budgeting their household finances. People pray for an increase in business but their paperwork isn’t in proper order. People pray for a spouse but they’re still going back and fourth with an ex. People pray to own a business but don’t know how to be a good employee. People pray for an advanced position but still don’t know how to manage their emotions.

God is not going to give you anything that’s going to kill you or make Him look bad. Often times the delay in the manifestation falls on us not being properly prepared and positioned. So before you allow yourself to give up in frustration, start praying for God to prepare you and position you for exactly what it is you’re asking for. On your end, start preparing for what you’re praying for. We are responsible to do the possible and God is willing and able to do all that which is considered impossible by human reasoning and intellect.

Are you a good employee?

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Anyone who does hiring will tell you, it’s hard to find good employees. We live in a time when folks act like they’re doing you a favor by showing up to work and it’s sad. You certainly don’t have to kill yourself working for someone else, but appreciating the gift of having a way to bring income into your household should be valued and respected.

If you have dreams of one day owning your own successful company, the best thing you can do for yourself is learn how to be a good employee. Every great Boss was once a great employee. So let’s address some basics that may seem like common sense to some, but in reality some people are never taught these things so that’s why I’m sharing it. What makes me the expert? I wouldn’t call myself an expert but I do have a decade of experience teaching employment skills, hiring, managing, supervising, and eight years of self-employment so I’d at least consider myself a reliable source.

Accepting a Job

When you accept an offer of employment, realize what is actually happening. You are agreeing to preform the duties outlined in your job description and follow the company’s policies for an exchange of a certain amount of money (hourly/ annually). There are far too many folks who come into agreement with this written contract (which is everything most people don’t really read and just sign on multiple pages within the application) and don’t uphold their end of the bargain.

It’s extremely hard to fire someone who preforms the duties they agreed to and it is almost impossible to fire someone who does their duties well. Why? Because Unemployment Insurance costs  money. The more people you fire, the more people collect and the more expensive it is to carry insurance. Employers are in the business of making making money, not loosing it. Employers seek to hire individuals that they think can become an asset, not a liability.  Most companies evaluate their employees on a 90-day, 6-month, then annual basis. Within these evaluations are basic questions, do you or don’t you do the job you agreed to do?

If you agreed to preform certain duties and follow certain policies, the very least you can do to keep yourself employed is keep your word. Far too many people have no problem cashing a paycheck and not upholding their end of the bargain. Far too many people get a job, then behave like it’s an entitlement. One of the hardest lessons you will ever learn in the working world is that anyone can be replaced. If you are a person who strives to give 100% in everything you put your hands to? That will always work in your favor. If you’re not a person who strives to give 100%? You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do, but the least you should do is do what they’re paying you to do.

But I don’t really like my job, I only work there because I need money….

So what? Seriously, so what? Nobody told you that you had to like anything but if you have a need (income) which they (the job you don’t like) are providing to you and your household? Suck it up. Did you like going to school everyday? Do you like when the kids make a mess? Do you like paying bills? Nobody likes everything but there are things we have to do in order to provide for our household or fund our dreams. If you really are that bothered? Look for a different job. However, while you are employed at a place you don’t like? Show up with a good attitude and do what they’re paying you for. You may very well need that reference checked one day and although it is illegal for any company to give an opinion (non-factual information) about you , things like your attendance is  factual. Sometimes a tone of voice or simply saying a person is not eligible for re-hire is all that a new potential employer needs to hear in order to make a decision about hiring you.

Every great Boss was once a great employee

A great Manager is one who has worked multiple positions within a company before getting promoted. A terrible Manager is normally one with no experience. Working your way up a ladder will teach you skills and lessons that you can’t obtain any other way. Some of the lessons you learn will be fair and some won’t be, but it’s important to have both so you know exactly what to do and what not to do.

For those of you who desire to be your own boss, be the kind of employee you’d want working for you. Would you continue to pay someone who had a bad attitude and was always doing the minimum necessary to get by? Take every opportunity you can to learn about the business and policy so that you know what to do when it’s time for you to run your company. Even if your job isn’t in the industry you desire to operate a company in, there are many things that are just standard for running a business of any kind.

Corrective Feedback 

Learn to be a person who accepts corrective feedback. There are far too many people who take it personally when someone offers them corrective feedback. If your supervisor is evaluating your job performance or offering corrective feedback about something in the work place, that is not a personal attack against you as a human being.

There is a huge difference between someone belittling you and correcting your job performance. The first time I had a supervisor pull me to the side, I felt bad. I felt like I screwed up. I however took heed to what she said and within the next three years following her pulling me aside, I was promoted twice.

Friendly & Friends

You do not get paid at any job to make friends. Most people get friendly with co-workers, invite them to weddings, they show up at funerals, and some you may even spend some recreation time with. In reality, you normally spend a lot of your time at work and you get friendly with folks. Your being friendly, should never blind you from the fact that you’re there to work or compromise your job performance. Professional Boundaries are extremely important. If you have ever supervised someone who was a friend or family member you know exactly what I’m talking about. Work is work, friendship is friendship, and not everyone has an easy time making that separation.

Simple Steps to being a good employee

  • Show up on time, call if you’re running late, minimize tardiness
  • Do your best to schedule your time off according to company policy
  • Follow policy
  • Have a good attitude
  • Finish your shift responsibilities, don’t leave your work for other people to do
  • Be a team player
  • Put in a reasonable effort, do what they pay you to do
  • Keep non-emergency personal calls/ texting to your break times. Nobody pays you to be on your phone and most companies have a cell phone policy you probably signed off on and didn’t really read

If you want to be one of those above and beyond employees? Ask if there’s anything else you can help out with once your work is done. It’s not that complicated folks, sometimes we need to change our perspective. For every shift that you get to work and generate income for your household, there is someone who wishes they had that same opportunity. If you don’t believe me, feel free to have a chat with anyone who is currently homeless or was recently released from a correctional facility and is now job searching.

Seek respect, not attention

Ladies ladies ladies….I love y’all but I am SO sick and tired of seeing the majority of women out here doing THE MOST for attention. Babygirl, learn what RESPECT feels like and seek that instead. Focus on being worthy of the pursuit.

(PROVERBS 31:30)

Your family & cell phones

Thought this was worth sharing folks. Far too many people are living their lives in a phone and for a phone. Family meal time has been replaced with everyone’s face in a device. The clock of life is always ticking. None of us know how much time we have so don’t waste yours.

Life has painful moments

Rest in knowing God works ALL THINGS together for your good… even the painful. Pain will teach you more then pleasure ever will. Every great victory or next level comes after intense pain, pressure, sacrifice, or struggle. You are not running the race of life against another person, so all you have to do is finish the race.