Everyone has SOMETHING
Everyone has something to offer Fam. Good or bad they have something. Something I have learned over time (and again, this in no way implies that I got it during the first lesson.. some times it takes ten) that you can save yourself a whole lot of time and aggravation with other people if you do a few simple things.
- Be quiet. Listen. Some of us are the type of listeners that are always thinking about what we’re going to say as soon as the other person shuts up. You can get yourself in a lot of trouble this way. Here’s why, typically most people with ill intentions will let you know EXACTLY what their intentions are. It’s not their fault you’re not listening.
- History. Do you have a history with this person? Having a history doesn’t mean that people don’t change, but it means you should absolutely have a good idea of what the person is capable of. For example if the person has always been a selfish person in the past, and now all of the sudden they pop up randomly. It doesn’t make you a bad person to listen for the motives.
- Logic. Moving in logic is hard for people often times because they have no self-control and they move wildly about inside of their emotion. The problem with moving inside of emotions is dangerous. Emotions change all the time, and emotional decisions will get you in trouble with no logic that you didn’t consciously sign-up for. Don’t expect people to be like you, don’t expect people to not do things you would never do, etc. Take things as they come at face value. It’s like getting into an argument with an idiot. Trying to convince a stupid person why they were stupid, makes you stupid in the process.
- Self-Responsibility. We have to learn that when we make bad choices or impulsive decisions and they are OUR OWN fault. The wisdom comes when you realize, recognize, and re-group. Making a bad choice or decision doesn’t mean you’re any less valuable. You messed up. Learn, get over it, and move on.
Learn how to see situations & people for what they are. Don’t force unrealistic expectations upon other people, you’re the only one who will be disappointed. You can only ever hope to control yourself. You are responsible for setting your boundaries and limits of “what” is okay to do to you. People only do what you let them. Swallow your pride, resist the urge to get the last word in, hang up. Easier said then done, but like anything else, practice makes perfect.
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